Wow! I am so very sorry this happened to you. I also know what it feels like to be betrayed. I will say, people do fall short. Frankly we all do. I would suggest that you try and focus on you for a moment. Relax, take some deep breaths, mediate or pray or journal. You did nothing wrong, so don't blame self. Try to not react until you have time to calm down and think clearly. If that takes a week or two weeks, calm down first. Once we are calm, we can respond in a way that will benefit you. As women it is easy to lash out at another women but don't. You have to have a calm and level headed conversation with your HUSBAND about where do you go from here with regards to respect and boundaries in your marriage. Think about what's best for you. No one deserves to be treated that way.

Thank you. He’s the type of person that doesn’t hold grudges and doesn’t stay angry for long so all I see is that he’s gotten ‘past’ this. His attitude is why keep dwelling on it, I promised I would never do it again, let’s repair this. While I’m left with all these thoughts of ‘it’s his day off, is he still talking to her? Another girl?’ What is he doing?’ I do journal and I did so last night which just got me more angrier. I didn’t even want to look at him. He doesn’t understand how this has affected me. He states he didn’t sleep with her which I believe. I just wish that our marriage was that solid that he wouldn’t need to have done this. And the funny this is, is that I always thought we had a strong marriage. I just feel really stupid. I know he did the wrong, he should be the one to feel stupid.

"Why keep dwelling on it" - because you can't trust him. It's not the picture, it's the fact you can't trust him. He asked for a picture and received one. How disrespectful of you and your marriage.

"He didn't sleep with her" - a mere technicality. You can't trust him, so who knows if it would have stopped after one picture.

I'm not saying these things to be mean. I'm just stating that this is a bigger deal than he's willing to admit.

I'm sorry the journaling made you angrier, but I'd keep doing it. Document every feeling you get when his words don't quite seem to match his actions.

I haven't been through quite the same thing myself, but I think I'd be angry too. He should be begging for forgiveness. I'd get a free consultation with an attorney while you consider your next steps. It's just an info meeting for you to consider your options.

Hi @S71 it takes time to regain trust when it has been broken and that's what your husband needs to understand. It's good that he saw the error of his way and apologized and blocked her. What has happened shows that it's important that both of you discuss having safeguard boundaries to protect your marriage. The truth is for you to move on, you have to make the decision to forgive and trust again. I think time and your husband's positive actions will help make it easier you as you choose this path. Just a thought; maybe you could write him a letter sharing with him the mistrust feelings his action with ex co -worker has caused in you and the accountability you need from him to build back the trust.
Wish you all the best for the future and peace of mind.

My marriage is important to me and I know it is as well to him. He’s asked for forgiveness and has apologized a lot. I have my good days where I don’t dwell on it and then those days that something triggers and it’s a bad day. I’ve talked to him a lot about this and he knows that I need to heal from this. He doesn’t hide his emails, FB etc. if I asked to see his phone, he’d gladly give it to me and vice versa. I believe that people make stupid mistakes, I get it. I e made my own in the past. I have to forgive but he knows that I will never forget and at any time I’ll throw a dig, he knows that he has to accept it because he’s admitted that he deserves it as he was in the wrong.