My ex texted me again last night wishing me a Happy New year. That is 3 times within the 2 weeks since I ended it with him that hes reached out. I responded this morning letting him know that he needs to stop reaching out to me unless he is willing to address what happened between us. He made sure to call me out for being the one to end it and hes just going along with it. His reasoning for still texting me is that I am important to him so its important we stay friends...oh and also since were in our 30s that means we should be able to be cordial and still wish each other Merry Christmas, Happy NY and Birthday. Wow, I see it so differently. If I was important to him he would be willing to give up the drugs, but he still sees that as me asking him to give up his whole social life and control him. I've never asked him to give up his friends, just be able to hang out and not do it, since he claims he isnt addicted. He still holds true that he wants a relationship with me. He also still says he wants to be able to do cocaine without hearing about it from me. I just dont see why he keeps telling me he wants to be with me when its clear he doesn't. Is this all a game?
We set up a time to talk tomorrow. I just want him to understand the reasons I ended it are not because I dont care about him but because he wasnt treating me right and he solely wants a relationship on his terms. He wonders why all his relationships are so short but seems to not be able to see why. I know its not my job to fix him and it feels like I am beating a dead horse at this point I just dont know why I cant just give it up. By him consistently reaching out he is making it so I cant move on. I feel like each time it sets me back. How do I go about this?
Hello all! When life takes you through so many hardships, and you have multiple years of sobriety. What helps you get through, not drinking during these hard times?
When you realize all you were was a pawn in a game. Hesaid all the right things I needed and wanted to hear. He came in and swept me off my feet after 20+ years apart. He made me believe me and our love was what was always missing in his life. And that I was the one. He treated my son well and brought his into my life. Knowing that was the fastest way into my heart was through these two boys. My...