Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
maybe love is not real. maybe i am too idealistic. my father taught me unconditional love. and i gave this to my ex. but she was brought up with the reverse, and had three clinical diagnoses. when i met her and heard this, i said, i am going to give her my unconditional love. 12 houses worth of it. she had depression and was never happy. ended up always tearing me apart. when i said nothing and supported and encouraged her. crazy.
now, at my age of 49, there are very few people to date, in a situation similar to mine, and in my location. is love over for me? after all i gave?
it seems as i wade through online dating and get to know real people who cant find people and make something good work out, that there is a very real possibility that i might not find someone, i might not find love.
does love end? does it disappear from lives? do people die alone, having lived many years alone with no partner? how does one reflect on a possible life, the remainder of life, with no partner? i was so pro-marriage, pro-positivity, pro-making it work out.
there is such a stress/pressure on me, trying to find the love solution. even just to get started with someone seems so hard. and people are quick to end things at this stage.
so how does one reflect on a remainder of life, that will have no partner in it? how do you enjoy that, without being desperate to find someone?
I'm quite content "doing me" and in no mad rush to jump into anything.
I think if you don't have happiness and your own life, YOU'RE the one missing from your life, not a romantic partner.
Another mate to fill your void. HUGS
I too wonder if people just die alone and if I will end up alone, but the difference for me is I don't mind. I have had to learn to love my own company and re-learn my self worth. For me I would rather be alone a million times over than be in the type of hellish relationship I was in. The same can't be said for stbx (and I don't really feel sorry for him). I am only stronger now and happy sometimes because I love myself.
I don't know but I think we are entering into a new world phase where marriage and forever with someone is no longer the goal and strangely enough I'm okay with that .... Because I love myself now. So the truth is the best person to have hopes for and plans with and dreams of happily ever after is (aside from your children of course) YOURSELF.
HUGS*
are Going into therapy. I was not ashamed of
Asking and going after much needed help.
I am not ready to get into a new relationship
Yet. I need to heal me first, i am still wounded
And my heart is still not healed.
I do have high hopes one day, the right one
Will appear when i am ready. HUGS