Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I understand that mistakes are a human thing. I understand that I made mistakes in my marriage and in choosing a partner who didn't have the capacity for honesty and faithfulness. My concern now is seeing that I don't repeat those mistakes. I know that I can't fix anyone but myself. I know that if I am choosing a "sick" partner that that reflects on my own sickness. I hope that I can recognize that and make better choices today. I am aware that divorce has given me a chance to really step back, get to know myself in an honest way, and to see the kind of man I truly am. I have choices and don't mind the idea of making mistakes in the future, as that is inevitable. I just don't want a repetition of my older mistakes. I want to be with someone who can stand up for themselves. I want to be with someone who doesn't cheat. I want to be with someone who values me the way that I am. When I write those three things, they seem obvious and clear and in some ways they are. I am hopeful that my divorce has brought about clear, positive change in my life.
I've just started dating and have a small list of things I simply will not accept. One fellow that I had a lunch date with, confided that his last "relationship" was with a married woman! After lunch he asked if we could go out again...NO. I told him I was not interested in someone who had such little regard for marriage that he could engage himself in an affair with a married woman. I'm sure my words stung, but I'm looking out for myself now.
You really can not tell who or how a person is unless they show you. So I hope that one thing you have learned is to notice the clear and obvious signs of someone who is not all they say they are sooner, but at the same time, be open enough to continue to look for what your future holds even if you get hurt again.
best wishes