Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I thought I was ready and it's what had to happen , that's what was best,
Now I know I was wrong , I'm broken hurt , and after 10 years he's not sure he can trust me not to leave again and doesn't want to go threw the hurt again,
We were apart 8 months which we both went on a dates , I accidentally stumbled on info about his date and the steamy sex they had ,, what a kick in the heart guts face that was , as that was one thing we never lacked , I wasn't with another just diners ,
And it's not the case of I don't want him and don't want anyone else to either, as it just showed me how much I truly cared and what he meant to me , I wish we'd have exhausted all options before I left . I was so wrong and now I may have lost someone who meant everything to me .
I can't did ribs the empty lonely hollow feelings I feel.
We have been seeing one another again but he's holding back which hurts even more .
If I can't fix this I'm not sure how ill handle it. Really I don't I feel like I want to die .
I'm trying so hard probably too hard , I'm obsessed with him now , when he won't respond to calls or texts because he's unsure of what to do ,but the distance he puts between us hurts so bad ,,
Any ways before you leave or end it make sure yous exhaust all options cause you never know when it may be to late to fix it or repair the damage that's done , I know I need to lay off him but I just need answers alot depends on his answers we have kids , and I'm thinking of relocating as I can't be here in our small town if we are not together or are going to be ,, how can I prove to him ill do whatever possible to make it up and make it better if he don't break down his wall and let me in again ,,, help , I've never been so broken
Now I know I was wrong , I'm broken hurt , and after 10 years he's not sure he can trust me not to leave again and doesn't want to go threw the hurt again,
We were apart 8 months which we both went on a dates , I accidentally stumbled on info about his date and the steamy sex they had ,, what a kick in the heart guts face that was , as that was one thing we never lacked , I wasn't with another just diners ,
And it's not the case of I don't want him and don't want anyone else to either, as it just showed me how much I truly cared and what he meant to me , I wish we'd have exhausted all options before I left . I was so wrong and now I may have lost someone who meant everything to me .
I can't did ribs the empty lonely hollow feelings I feel.
We have been seeing one another again but he's holding back which hurts even more .
If I can't fix this I'm not sure how ill handle it. Really I don't I feel like I want to die .
I'm trying so hard probably too hard , I'm obsessed with him now , when he won't respond to calls or texts because he's unsure of what to do ,but the distance he puts between us hurts so bad ,,
Any ways before you leave or end it make sure yous exhaust all options cause you never know when it may be to late to fix it or repair the damage that's done , I know I need to lay off him but I just need answers alot depends on his answers we have kids , and I'm thinking of relocating as I can't be here in our small town if we are not together or are going to be ,, how can I prove to him ill do whatever possible to make it up and make it better if he don't break down his wall and let me in again ,,, help , I've never been so broken
Given that he's in his own pain, its not just you - you really have to allow him some space to figure out where his head is at. Maybe seeing each other right now isn't the best thing. It hard to see where you are sometimes when you are still so in the weeds and your obsessiveness? That's going to probably put a bigger wedge between you two. So, give him space...tell him what you are doing...and in the meantime figure out why you keep leaving him. Therapy, counseling, something...in order to get to the root of the problem. If not? Even if you came back together, the pattern is bound to repeat itself.
But I grew up with a chip , long story , I need to let it go,
I'm afraid your right about pushing , I just want him to know I'm willing to do whatever it takes , I don't want him heading back out to single life but I guess if that's what he does , it says it all right there ,
I'm far from a softy a bit of a hard ass but I left mad , makes it easier I guess. But the thought of him intimate with another kills me really , but I did go on a few dates but never went that far , it hurt then ,
I do have things on the go and it's clouding my vision of what I need to do , I'm retraining for a trade and my heart n mind are some where else, but I do know only time heals a broken heart , It just keeps hurting more everytime he pushes down his emotions , but I know I need to give him space , and thank you again aurora