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Well, the 4th was always HUGE for us, my boys and I made it through tho, when their dad left to go do his thing....but what has set me off this evening, and I know I have said this before but I am having a REAL hard time, as I asked one of my boys (twin soon to be 16) "where's your dad", answer was having dinner at "such & such's house", I immediately think, well he probably has someone else there with him, first thing that pops into my head, one of the such" would be his sister, and then I also think, he would NEVER have anyone else around mutual people i.e. sister until this was all over, I can see it with people that do not know me
ALL I think about is him having someone else, we are 2 mos away from the final divorce hearing, and have lived in the same house since,April 2014 when he told me, same bed until the end of May....I do not think there was anyone before he moved upstairs, and I know none of this is solid proof of there being someone else, but ya kinda go with your gut.
Ever since moving upstairs, he makes sure I am in bed before coming home, I WONDER everynight, where does one go until 10,11,Midnight EVERY single nite, at the age of 48, that is another thing I just keep going round and round with in my head.
I guess it is one thing if you do not want to face me (and that is what I think, maybe wrong but...) but our boys? I believe that even if it is awkward situation, you suck it up and deal with it for your kids, no matter, he's the one that wanted this, he's the one that will not leave the household, and he would obviously have somewhere to go, I mean he is gone EVERY nite
WHY can I not get past the fact of someone else, I know it is out of my control, but I just CANNOT imagine him being with or wanting to be with someone else after being together for so long
ALL I think about is him having someone else, we are 2 mos away from the final divorce hearing, and have lived in the same house since,April 2014 when he told me, same bed until the end of May....I do not think there was anyone before he moved upstairs, and I know none of this is solid proof of there being someone else, but ya kinda go with your gut.
Ever since moving upstairs, he makes sure I am in bed before coming home, I WONDER everynight, where does one go until 10,11,Midnight EVERY single nite, at the age of 48, that is another thing I just keep going round and round with in my head.
I guess it is one thing if you do not want to face me (and that is what I think, maybe wrong but...) but our boys? I believe that even if it is awkward situation, you suck it up and deal with it for your kids, no matter, he's the one that wanted this, he's the one that will not leave the household, and he would obviously have somewhere to go, I mean he is gone EVERY nite
WHY can I not get past the fact of someone else, I know it is out of my control, but I just CANNOT imagine him being with or wanting to be with someone else after being together for so long
at some point drop the load of wanting to understand any of the who/what/when/where/why/how of "him"
to destroy one's own family, one's kids family, a marriage, is either a sickness or a sick choice
sickness as this is "acceptable" but sad in that they couldn't / wouldn't trust you with their sickness,
a sick choice by a rational person is monstrous
better to think of him as sick
Hang in there.
But like right now, he did not outlast me coming home, all dressed up, well for him, and I went to bed, couldn't sleep and here I am
He is upstairs and I sent him a text msg, I know it does no good but makes me feel better to say what is on my mind, I just told him he was very obvious, or stupid and to man up and take these two mos to stop putting himself first and get out, I mean he obviously has somewhere to stash clothes, change clothes, stay at every night, why not
I just hope this too shall pass, but hard to believe I do still love him, why I do not know, I had a therapist in the beginning and I just did not feel it was helping me at all
For me, I had to accept it and go through the stages, even though she was great at keeping things hush hush.