Hi,
I wanttochange,
You know just the fact that you are being honest and acknowledging that you have this problem
is a good first step. Pathological lying. ... Pathological lying (also called pseudologia fantastica and mythomania) is a behavior of habitual or compulsive lying.Get yourself some counseling, let your wife see that you
are serious.Therapy will help because they can possibly uncover deep rooted issues or fears, of why
you have taken up this behavior and clung onto it (habit of lying).It is time to breaK free from these chains!!!!!
: ) so good luck and bright light and energy positive vibes sent your way!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Wanting to change takes lots of courage. I admire that you admit to lying. I was raised with liars, so I know how strong the urge to tell falsehoods can be. I've responded to you with some useful tips at a different post of yours. And this is just to let you know so. You deserve a hug today. Let your wife know that you came here for help. I hope that she hugs you too :-) I can tell that you are trying hard to make changes. That's great!

Here is another link which may help you as well: https://www.dailystrength.org/group/liars-anonymous

Thanks Remiah and Osheana for your words and hugs your words give courage to keep fighting this problem you guys have a friend on me thanks

Thank you too :-)!

I am feeling the same right now. My husband doesn’t trust be after catching me in the stupidest lies over the past 15 years. He said he is done trying. And can’t stay married to someone he can’t trust. I agree. I admit my fault and that I was so wrong and he deserves honesty. I’m seeking help here. I started back to church today to find helpful through God and his ministry. And next counseling. I need to work on me. The truly sad thing is, my husband said he still doesn’t think any of this is enough for him to want to try marriage counseling or stay together. So all my work to stop the lies, after 15 years of marriage and 2 kids later, is still not enough. I’m devastated. I love him so much. This was a surprise and shock. Didn’t expect it at all.

Hey! Sorry that this is going on. I believe a marriage is worth fighting for, so I think being honest and try to see things from her perspective. Hang in there and I will be praying for the both of you! Hope to hear back from you!

Stop lying. You can't say you love or care for someone if you lie. Address your behavior and be honest to your spouse about it while you are working on it. Seek the help of a therapist and tell your wife. If you have not irrevocably destroyed your marriage, it can be salvageable.

It will require a lot of work on your part, not on your wife's. You have to realize that you created this conundrum that you are currently in, not other people. That is step one. Step two is seek help and really work on it once you are in therapy. Step three is be honest, what is the point of lying? You are an adult. not a child learning how to behave in society.

Hope you admit your problem, seek the help you need, and hope that you and your wife have a happy marriage.

If you want to change a behavior that has been ingrained in you since childhood, you need therapy. First, to understand the whys, second to learn alternate ways of dealing with situations where you would normally feel compelled to lie.

Do this for yourself. Don't do it to sustain a relationship where the trust has already been broken. Don't do it for the benefit of any future relationship. Do it for YOU, first and foremost. If others benefit, that's just gravy.

Rocksolid dont give up be strong

jojored thanks for your words they are very helpful

TheWay1 thanks for your words Im going to continue fighting for my marriage she is very important to me

grnplnt031 I know I hurt her every time I lie but believe me im gonna change for her and our marriage

best place to start is to stop lying to yourself
see yourself for how full of shyte that you are
take deep deep whiffs
if you don't like it, change