Advice won't get you through the pain your going through. Having someone listen and talk to will certainly go a long way towards helping you move forward. I to am going through some pain so I'll be here to listen if you wish me to be.

Keep going to therapy, i love divorce care,
Churches, And Keep reaching out on here.

This is a long hard journey that should not
to be travelled Alone. Keep reaching out to
loving caring people.

You can easily burden friends and coworkers.

Thats why support groups and therapy help
A lot. Divorce and cheating are hard to cope
With and it takes a lot of time to move thru,
Venting helps.

You might have a checked out spouse, they
Are detached and disconnected from you then
Eventually they cheat to get out of the marriage.

Let yourself grieve your losses, Grief is a process
that just takes time. Honor your grief and accept it.
HUGS

I am so sorry to hear you are going through this and having pain that is not easy to deal with on a day to day bases. Therapy is very important and staying in touch with friends , family or someone that you trust. What your stbx has done is wrong and it is not your fault, regardless of what the situation is that he claims made him choose to go to someone else is on him and not you. This is a time for you to find out who you are and what you want your life to be . My mother has Alzheimer's disease and under the care of hospice so its not as if I can talk to her for advise and my brothers and sisters live far away so its just my 19 yr old and 16 year old and I an my friends at work and of course my 4 cats that I always tell myself when my cats pass I will not get another one because it breaks my heart to go through that.. yet I had 3 cats I had to put down over the past 10 years and I always bring in a new one in the memory of the one that past. . This is not going to be easy for you and thinking that it is easy for him because he has a girl friend is just a temp fix . He is not your problem and neither is his girlfriend, the situation that he caused is not your problem yet you are left to pick up the broken parts . Remember you are stronger than you think you are and you will get through this. Stay in contact with your Doctors as well. I wish you luck.. hugs to you

I am so sorry for all your loss and pain. It is not easy, it is a rough journey. But there is hope and there is a future. Loss needs to be grieved. The pain brings you to a place of healing. Yes, this is where you need support and others to lean on, to cry with. Do not blame yourself for your husband's choices. Take it fifteen minutes at a time and be gentle with yourself. Losing your pets is very hard. They offer unconditional love and losing both of them adds to your deep grief. You may want to consider getting a new pet. I am sorry about your dad. I faced a future without my husband as well and both of my parents have suffered with dementia. It is very challenging to watch and not be able to change the course of this disease. Just love your dad and hold his hand. He will know it's you even if it doesn't seem so. If you are involved with a church, reach out to them. If God is part of your life, talk to Him as you would a friend. He will hear you and you can be assured that He is with you. You have medical challenges. Take care of yourself during these days. It will get better, it absolutely will. Stay strong and never let go of hope. You will be in my heart.

Thank you everyone.