Hang in there. You will get through this part. What helped me is developing a good support group. Seek out a good counselor, church groups, other divorce support groups. This really helps understand what happened, acceptance, and looking forward to a brand new life. It will be different and that is what is hard to cope with. Once you get past that mindset, there begins to be peace and hope. I am in the process of a divorce after 17 years and two children. It is rough but once I realized that the relationship was not healthy and accepted this, I was able to move on and feel happy. Stay faithful and strong, you will find hsppiness again.

How do you let go??? You let go, one day at a time. It was a daily night made, but it gets better, one day at a time.

I completely understand what you are going through and am dealing with the same thing. I didn't sleep well for 9 months. I shook uncontrollably for 4 months. I cried all the time. Couldn't comprehend the level of betrayal. "They" were the first thing I thought of when I woke up, throughout the day and even the last thought before I fell asleep. It's a horrible situation but the sun keeps coming up everyday and we move forward. Bigger picture, your kids need you. Their normal just blew up. They have no control of this situation and are now in the middle. They are scared and are looking to you on how to handle/ process this tragedy. You are their pillar of strength. I have tried to keep my children's lives as normal as possible, I have offered them therapy if they want it. I do not ever say they can't see their father when they want to see him. I do not speak poorly of their father to them or in front of them. I do not post things about cheaters on my FB. I am taking the high road. This is a decision he made and we were blindsided. I still have bad days (yesterday) but the good days outnumber the bad. Now, almost a year later, I sleep better than I have in years. I don't miss him anymore. I'm making plans for what I want to do when my nest is empty. I've started a bucket list. I don't think of him/them very often. I know I'm a good person but most importantly, I have learned to love myself. I'm still nervous about my future but I refuse to lay down in defeat. I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's horrible and scary but each day you will get stronger. PM me if you'd like to talk. Hugs.

Thank you and I really would like to talk to you cause I can't get it together

I agree with Danceintherain 100%.

Is there something positive you can do? Something to focus on besides feeling badly? Learn an instrument, work on a career, take up a hobby?

Do you have someone to talk to? A sister, brother, parent or friend? If you don't have anyone like that and just anybody would do, I'll talk to you about it.

Hopefully you feel a bit better by the time you read this reply.

Dear Broken,
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. My wife left me in December after many years of marriage. The first few months of separation devastating but with the help of much counseling and my children, things are so much better. I can now see the light at end of the tunnel. Hang in there!!!! Find a good counselor and or a good friend. If you need someone to talk with, I'm here for you.

"I said a prayer for you and may God provide you His love and guidance! This life here is filled with many tribulations, but, thankfully, there is a God who can sustain us and help us make it. We all can speak to Him at any time. I believe that He already has spoken to you through some people here. God delights in having a relationship with each one of us and I know that even in the midst of suffering and great sadness, it’s possible to experience peace and hope and healing. God’s love is free. I hope He blesses you immensely!"