Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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marisalynn22 08/03/2016

Hi... I'm new to this site... I was with my ex-husband for 16 years, 11 of them married... We divorced in March (he wanted it)... There was no infidelity that I'm aware of on his part, none on mine... He just told me one day He fell out of love with me years ago but felt obligated to stay with me bc he took a "vow"... I was his 2nd wife and my first... we got martied at the court house and spent our money on a house in Ohio... We moved to Florida 10 years ago away from our families... his moved here mine didn't... now I'm alone and newly divorced... lost all friends and am completely alone... my anxiety and depression happen every day... I cry every day and have no idea how to "restart" my life... He's in law enforcement and I'm in the medical field... I'm also 38 and feel like I'll never grow old with someone... any advice would help

Eevee 08/03/2016

One step in front of the other—that's how we all rebuild our lives.

Try to think of possibilities instead of the negatives. You said you're in FL alone. Well, now that there's nothing holding you there, think about where you want to be.The future is a blank slate, anything is possible! That's pretty amazing if you think about it. So many of us feel trapped and frozen, but you have the chance to make your future yours.

I understand your fear of being alone. I too am in my late 30's. Only I've never been married and have no children. I often feel as though I've wasted my best years, my years of having a family, with the wrong men. But, we can't think like that! Thoughts like that will only hold us back. We have to hold onto the positive possibilities of tomorrow, because as cliche as it is, when one door closes another one to something better opens.

Try joining a local group of some sort. For me it's the gym and the local art studio. Being around people helps to not feel isolated. Hang in there … you're not going to be alone for life and the future will be bright again. This is just a bump in the road.

marisalynn22 08/03/2016

Thank you so much... I've been looking for local support groups, most in my area are "religion" related... I'm catholic but mybex and I haven't practiced on over 20 years... Im thankful for no kids to have to go through this, but I wanted a family, the whole stupid picket white fence thing... Your words of encouragement are greatly appreciated ... ❤

Sparkoll 08/03/2016

is this the chat room?

jojored 08/03/2016

You could consider a move back home, close to family and old friends. Distance from the ex and familiarity may be good for you. You're rightly feeling beaten down, but the fact that you're reaching out means that you'll be ok. You're taking steps to rebuild, it's just that usually it's an incredibly slow process. I also tried the religion-focused group, it didn't suit me either. Keep looking for those support groups, there's one out there for you. I found mine on the meetup site.

kbbcoop77 08/03/2016

After you process the storm you're in and heal you'll be amazed at the freedom you have. My ex wife pulled the same shit after 24 years together this was 2 1/2 years ago. I was severely depressed and couldn't get out of bed on the weekends and etc etc but once it's done and over with and you can go total no contact and heal ....I'm very happy where I am at now and have freedom to do whatever I want to. I'm in no rush to jump into another relationship I'm enjoying my untethered existence! I recommend taking some time for yourself and make some decisions where you want to be and what you want to do. You're still very young this happened to me when I was 49 I'm 51 now and the future is bright! Hang in there

ezzy345 08/03/2016

Im sorry you are going thru this. It is indeed hard to deal with when you seemingly lose everything. Been there done that. I too was with my first husband for 16 years and felt like the bottom had fallen out of my world. The thing that is most hard to deal with is the vision of your future when it all goes to shit. I thought I would be married to him for the rest of my life and we would ride off into the sunset of our lives together but he decided that he was bored and needed a new life. So I get it. It will take some time to get over this or at least figure out a new normal. Get active, work, do whatever to keep your mind busy and make sure you take care of yourself, eat right and exercise, it definitely helps. Whatever you do dont self medicate and another relationship...it helps nothing and makes things worse actually. It will be okay. If not now, eventually. Peace to you and know you will get through this.

mirandac 08/04/2016

I would go to a therapist to help you
During this time and divorce care.org
Is a great program to help with the
Grieving process. HUGS

utterpain 08/04/2016

There's almost always another woman, especially in law enforcement. You are young and at the age when most people start getting their first divorce, so there will be an available dating pool. I would strongly encourage you to move closer to your family. Also, if this is his second divorce, I wouldn't think it's you but him.

annesanchez 08/04/2016

This video helped me a lot when my husband left me because "he does not love me anymore" Let us allow ourselves to grieve. Let go and let God. I hope this video helps. https://youtu.be/gaQ_oTp7tKY

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