Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Izabela
Izabela

Hello, im new to this group. My boyfriend of 8 years just moved out this past Saturday. I am the one who broke it off because the relationship was getting worse and worse but it still hurts so much. The irony is that we were great as friends, but could not make it work as a couple.  We still care for each other and he left on good terms. He moved back cross country to our home state and I now that he is gone i find myself so lost. I try to keep myself busy during the days but get very lonely, lost,  and emotional in the evenings. I have been thru a hard breakup before so I know its hard but gets better over time, but I have never done it all alone. All my family is on the other side of the country.Although i do have few great friends here, everyone has their own life and problems to tend to so I cant expect them to hold my hand thru this. 

Sunshine50
Sunshine50
Yes, I am here!! I divorced my husband 3 years ago, after 25 years of marriage, it's hard, these groups help, it's someone to "vent" to - to get encouragement from, it helps. Stay busy, change your routine, find something to keep you busy and keep your mind occupied -- take care of yourself, think of something that you would not normally do that you can do.
I have been reading, I did not do that since before I had kids, now I am reading a book or on line reading self help anything!!
I have been taking baths, omg -- I missed baths, so relaxing, put on my fav music and give myself 30 min. of me time...it has been great.
Hang in there...you have friends here!!.
sw2018
sw2018
Hi I’m new to the group myself just joined today. Very sorry to hear the break up, it is as painful as losing a part of who you are. A 8 year relationship is a very long time, I can only imagine how hard the transition from the loss you are experiencing. Not having a network and a group of close friends, make the healing process is even more challenging. I am experiencing myself at the current moment and I can relate. I took a walk alone today to distract myself from the negative thoughts and feelings. But the sadness definitely creeps up at night. I know it sounds silly, but putting some sitcom or silly show in the background helps me to feel less lonely. When the sadness is so intense, I will call a friend, an aunt, of course my parents, to chat with them and talk about their days to focus less on myself. You are not alone, and I’m here to support. Just remember, this is only temporary, the pain won’t say forever because the resilience in human being is unbelievable. One day at a time.
SummerW
SummerW
I'm so sorry that you're hurting. You've lost a romantic relationship and a friendship. It has to be painful. You mentioned that you don't have family around, but that you do have a few friends...you just don't want to bother them. That sounded so much like me. I've always thought that I would be bothering or inconveniencing my friends if I were to reach out to them; however, I never gave it a second thought if they needed me. I have a feeling that your friends wouldn't mind either. You won't always need them, but it's okay to lean on each other in difficult times. Also, I would suggest that you write your feelings down in a notebook. It really helps to process your thoughts and work through them. I hope it will begin to get a little easier for you.