Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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BrokenWV 01/09/2018

Ok, so I'm new. I've never talked in a support group before so bare with me please. Idek what say really. My husband and I are splitting up. He says I'm a mistake and he will be fine once he gets rid if me. He is a recovering alcoholic and yet is still mentally and emotionally abusive constantly. He is also violent every so often as well. Not as much since he's not been drinking but its still there. I love him immensely. I'm so overwhelmed right now. I truly thought he loved me. He didn't decide to split up until he took me out of state away from everyone. Now I am stuck here my job is here I have now way back but no help here and its winter. Idk what to do, how to feel, I feel helpless. Does anyone have any advice or even just some comforting words?! I am so lost.

cautiously.optimistic 01/09/2018

Hey there. Sorry to hear about your situation.
First and foremost do you feel safe where you are at ?
Second take a deep breath and know you’ve joined a good group. There have been many people on here that have helped me over the last 6 months.
We all are struggling here and some may be a bit better or worse than others but it’s all relative. Mental & pyhsical pain coupled with confusion can make the strongest of people to stumble.
Try to keep your head up and know you have support behind you here in this group
All the best!!

Annemarieski 01/09/2018

It is awful to have someone you love (or loved) say such words of rejection and hatred. First of all, know that most of what he says are LIES. Very likely he will not be "fine." THINK: Did he have some of the very same issues before he met you? Second, if you are splitting--and this is the difficult part-- can you get some help to stop letting his words have so much power over you and your emotions. i was with my Ex for 22 years before splitting...during that time he said alot of things to beat me down that were NOT true and also things to lie to himself and say he was "fine" when he was mentally ill and would not seek the help he needed. Try to get some space, and release some of that power he has over you and in time, it will get better. I wish you the best.

meigemann 01/12/2018

I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. Have you and your husband tried counseling? Are you able to work through the difficulties that you guys are having? Do you have friends that can help you through and encourage you? I know I'm asking a lot of questions and you don't actually have to answer them I just want to help you see that there is always a next right step. I do want to say one thing though...YOU ARE NOT A MISTAKE!!!! You were created on purpose for a purpose to do and be great things. You are loved, cherished and treasured by God. If you don't have a church home I would suggest trying to find one a church can be an awesome support during hurting times.

patti22 01/12/2018

Have you tried alanon?

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