He is further into the divorce process than you. Stand your ground. One day, you may be able to be friends but not at this time. He'll either accept it or not but what is most important for you to realize is that you cannot control what he does. So if you can block him from your social media, then do but you will not be able to stop him from asking your children. Accept what you can control and let go of that which you cannot control. Good luck.

"his reason he felt like he couldn't make me happy" so he cheated, are you happy now? "Now getting married next month. this girl is 15 years younger" - how about now? "He wants us to be friends, cuz he still cares about me" - Does that make you happy? The truth is, he's messed up. His actions aren't the actions of a husband, a friend, or a man. Asking your children how you are doing, hoping for two answers at once, "mom is devastated and lost without you" to make him feel good about himself, and "mom is bubbling with anticipation of her new life without you" so he doesn't have to feel guilty for what he's done. Don't feel like you have to justify not being friends with him. He just ripped your heart out and took some of your lungs with it...you don't have to reciprocate that with any sort of friendship. Co-parents, that's it. Maybe one day, a different kind of friendship could be established, but right now, I wouldn't trust him to do anything that involves caring for anyone but himself.

Thank you for your words. It helps when other people can look in and give me perspective. @lookingfor closure..I am actually happier now. Alone, but happier.

Excuse me but your ex-husband has a lot of nerve. Why would you want to be friends?What he did is real dirty. Both of them together are wrong. He takes 95% and she gets 5% of the blame. Clearly, he needs to understand the meaning of a "friend". Why is worried about what you doing? He wasn't worried when he was plotting with that women. How I feel you should heal yourself and know you deserve a man that will love you, be loyal, and not leave you for another "flesh". Some 0f these men never deserved the woman they married.

LawLaila is absolutely right. He has some nerve asking your kids about you. Of course you don't want to be his friend, especially right now - how could he not get that? And his new little wifey is 15 years younger and very immature.....sounds like he has a great road ahead of him. I don't wish ill will on anyone but let's see how long this all lasts.

Stay no contact as much as possible, Talk only
about the children and finances. Use emails as
much as possible. No personal Chit chat none,
Stay off his social media, block him and Her.
Block Others that might post his photos.

Self protect yourself, your heart and your emotions
And feelings. You only need to deal with him because
Of the children keep it simple.

I have a hard time believing he met her afterward
often times The affair partner surfaces after Its all
said and done. His new relationship is also moving
Along Very fast which is very unusual. HUGS

I agree with others that as you process through the hurt and healing, friendship might not be an option. BUT, for your sake, learning to (and choosing to) forgive will bring healing to your heart and life and enable you to go forward in a positive way. I really like this article on What Forgiveness is... and What it isn't, and the Freedom Forgiveness brings. http://bit.ly/2ecCrnV

Yea, using the kids in this by him is textbook-wrong. You'll heal faster and better the less contact you have with him. My ex left me for a kid 13 years younger than her (oddly just a few years older than her oldest son-yuck). They acted like rebellious teenagers for months with huge plans of marrying, etc. Finally the "party" ended one night and things went so wrong there were no-contact orders made against him and his whole family. So it did catch up to her and probably will with your ex too. We all get tempted over time but it's how we deal with it that makes the difference. My exwife was all about the "forever, for always and no matter what" saying...even had the sign hanging in our living room yet she jumped ship when she thought the grass was greener somewhere else. Your ex is moving on too fast-it's unhealty and will hurt him in the long run. Stay strong. Hugs.

Thank you Stardust7. This whole situation is unreal. He always spoke of forever, but was the one who jumped ship. But i do believe he will find out the grass is not greener and when he does I will have moved on.

Yes, stay strong and remember all the non-negotionables that he's broken. Don't use them for anger or bitterness but to help yourself remember there's a line in the sand-your standards. Hold your head up high that you will never accept that kind of treatment....you're a good person and you deserve a good partner. As you heal and grow over time this stuff will become clearer.

I am amazed at how many posts/stories on here are alike. It is so true, the grass is not always greener and it will catch up with him eventually. It has been 7 months now since my husband left and last night I was feeling down and lonely so I looked at some pictures and read some old cards I had. But you know what, surprisingly he didn't seem as attractive or great to me anymore. I can only pray this is a sign that I am getting that much closer to moving on. I wish you all the best *hugs*