so me and my wife had been togther for 5 years but are marriage is still fairly new... not even a year we have two beautiful kids whic is are daughter who is 3 and are son which is 9 months.. ok so weve had are ups and down in are realtionship. as i am still young im only 25 i got a good job with benifits and she has been a stay home mom for some time.. i pay for eerything.. ok so recently we got into a huge fight and we seprated for awhile she went to her moms and in cali and i stayed with my job in az. so befor this i did not have a facebook but i thought we were done and over with so i made a facebook again and started talking to girl as i thought we were headed for divorce i did alot of things i should havent done my self. im sure she did to as well that i dont know about. ok so on thanksgiving i drove out to cali to visit my kids and some how when i was in cali we got back togther and she came back to az with me and we soon got an apartment togther i thought everything was going fine and i was being nice to her and things but i suspected something going on so i checked the phone bill and seems like for a couple days she was talking to one number alot so i called it and it eneded up to be guy. so i confronted her about it i was supper mad and she seemed to have no guilt what so ever so i let my emtions get the best of me and she didnt want to be around me cuz i wask calling her names and this and that so everytime i would come home from work she would leave and wouldnt return home till early in the am like 1 to 3 am so i got fed up with it and i told her i was going to take the kids and she would never see them again which was wrong but like i said i was hurt mad and i let anger speak i didnt do it tho i wouldnt have the heart to. so friday on dec 23rd she went to the courtsd after a couple days of fighting she filed a restraing order against me so i got home friday to have a sheriff officer knock on the door and serve me with that. needless to say i had to leave my home that we are both on lease surrender any firearm that i had to the sheriff officer and i have no contact with her and both my kids. she stated that i drive wrecklessly with my kids in car. i quoted i would shoot a cop and have them kill me, i would take my kids away from her and never see her agin, (true but anger talk) that i wrecked the house infront of her self and kids thretend to kick them out is not true cuz i had 3 cops in my house that day it is spotless.,, that back in 2013 while she was pregant with are daughter i picked her up and slammed her on the ground and at her obgyn app they said she could have miscarriage due to fall/drop (which is not true we went to the river one day while she was pregnant and steped out of are jeep and slipped really hard in the mud on her butt that where the statment about miscarriage came from) but after all this im still madly in love with the girl and i would do anything to win her back cuz i know i havent been the best husband in the world as in im really selfish we always do what i want to do when i want to do i find the things she wants to un fun etc so i know i ahvent been a good husband which i need to change my acts... so the advice im looking for is should i give up and just fight for my kids or should i still fight for my wife even tho she may be talking to another man and i dont get to see my kids do to ro....