Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I was married for over 25 years, and we've been broke up for around 9 months. He cheated on me throughout,although I finally ended it for good and it has been very painful. Time does help make it less so,but i am lonely and he has been the only friend i have. i have 3 sons,2 still at home and they are everything to me. i have no friends at all because i have social anxiety and most of the people i was friends with were his family and friends. I go to work and come home and even though i dont think im ready to see other people,i sometimes wish i did have a boyfriend and someone to feel close to,someone who wants me. i talk to my ex almost every day about the kids. I'm still bitter about the whole thing,but I know I don't want him back. He says he wants to be a famlly again, but I've given him second and third chances before. I know I can't trust him and don't want the heartache anymore,but i still ache and miss what we had,and he is really the only adult conversation i have anymore outside of work. I'm lonely,but I don't really think online dating sites are for me. I have social anxiety and so its very hard. I guess I'm just wanting people to talk to and understand what I'm going through. Thanks for reading. C
Time is your best friend right now and I know it seems hopeless at times , but dont rush into anything. There are a lot of great people here too so lean on US and you will do fine.
Big hugs and best of luck .
I wish you all the best
I was in a similar situation to you. I didn't know ANYBODY in my city that wasn't either related to my stbxw, or close friends with her family. Sooooo... I started doing activities that forced me to meet and interact with new people. I took up bowling, guitar, pottery, beekeeping (yes, beekeeping), I volunteer with abused and neglected children, and I joined a social club and a club for home-brewers. I have met all sorts of interesting people that otherwise would have remained outside of my social circle.
You say you have some social anxiety issues. Are you seeing a therapist? I strongly encourage you to break out of your shell - even just a little bit every now and then. Start with something simple like a walk around the block. Join a book club - and if you can't find a book club to join, start one (try craigslist or meetup.com). Go to a museum. Volunteer at an animal shelter. Take a guided tour. Volunteer with the PTA at your sons' school.
You don't have to go out there with the mindset of "I am looking for my next husband." Rather, just get out there and say "I want to meet people."
You have an opportunity to completely reinvent your life. Embrace it!