Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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playerapr 02/11/2011

Another day down and surviving, I don't know what tomorrow is going to bring but one day at a time. He says things are over and I agree but buried real deep I'm harboring some pathetic hope that things will change. It seems like every time we tried and things don't work out and then try again and things don't work out I get stronger and it don't hurt as much or maybe I just keep hoping that we'll try again and things will finally work out. Monday is VDay and is going to suck!!!! It's going to be a miserable day!!! Better face it and be ready for the miserable day I'm going to have!!!

WTconfused 02/11/2011

Playerapr: I was where you were Two years ago, one year ago, two months ago. I hope you do find that reconnection that you want, and never give up hope. BUT remember it takes TWO, and in my case I was the only one working on "IT". Look in your heart and ask yourself if you want next year to be like last year?Then set your direction and start walking that way. All your friends wil be here when you need the help to stay the course that you choose.

playerapr 02/11/2011

Thanks WT - I'm the only one working on "IT". No I don't want next year to be like this year, that's what the problem lays, I want it to be different with him not without him but hope keeps getting away from me a little bit more every day. Pain just settles in when I think about facing reality that next year is going to be different but on my own path.

ChiTownBear 02/12/2011

I know that feeling of being the only one to work on it. Episode after Episode, I tried and felt like the only one trying, but I still tried. While I found the hurt from the episodes weren't as bad, it still sucked ass cus I just didn't want what had happened. I wanted everything to be ok. but I knew, deep down, it just wasn't.

I think once we try this, or that, or this and that, and still yield the same results, we find the list we had is being checked off and not many options left. That the next time, it's adding on why not to be together then why to be together. While it may seem at the time easier to move on until the next "episode", it doesn't make it any easier to not see the person or relationship we thought we had.

The hardest part of it all, was not knowing it or realizing it, but doing something about it.

hang in there

((playerapr))

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