welcome to the group wes. sorry about the circumstances. i can't answer your question, there are a lot of others that can. i just wanted to welcome you. xoxoxoxox

Hey guitar. First of all let me say that I'm a drummer. Ok, now welcome here. I have experienced this and it doesn't work for me. It's like being smacked in the face everytime you walk in the front door. Good luck.

Hi!

All I can say is that it took nearly 2 years for my divorce to be final...and we lived in same home til final. WAS A NITEMARE!!!

In hind sight...wish we had figured another way to do it.

I wish you well! And sorry for your situation.

I only had to do it a few months and it was easy for us because of my work. When I was home she was at her boyfreinds when I was at work she was home.

But it only worked because its like we where living alone anyway.

Other than that I cannot recall a story from here of people being able to live together in a healthy sane way. It might start of ok, but it always seems to degrade to fighting and added stress in very little time.

Best of luck with whatever happens

I too lived with the ex for many months after the break. It was hellish and definitely further complicated things between us.

Thanks for the warm welcomes.

Rman: Always good to meet a fellow musician..lol

I dont really think it can happen, unfortunatly. After reading some thoughts here and having my own..im 99% sure it would not be healthy for me.

Currently suffering from Depression/Anxiety and a Panic disorder as it is...adding more stress is a no no.

Thank you everyone!!

Welcome and sorry about your situation. I could not and would not do it if there was infidelity involved.

I mean.. would you be ok with this guy coming to pick up your wife for a date or whatever?

Why doesn't she just move out?

A lot of people are doing it now for financial reasons but it really depends on your circumstances. Would you be able to handle it if she brought a new boyfriend home? I think it would be really awkward.

Welcome, but sorry you had to join, but glad you found DS.

I lived with my ex for 6 months after I found out about his affair...it was pure hell. Everytime I walked through that door I was reminded of what happened and what was going on. Knowing he'd have her there while I was gone.

Moving out was the best thing I could have done for myself and my daughters. Much more peaceful and no axiety pulling into the driveway.

Take care!

It did not work. Stress and anxiety went to levels never seen before.

If you are amicable and calm people, you might have a chance of doing it for some time. Expect problems, stress and anxiety levels to increase, if you try it.

In your case you have an increased level of complexity due to custody negotiations. My attorney says that three things make divorce complex: 1. business ownership, 2. custody and 3. factually intense cases (lots of financial accounts and transactions).

Benefit: It definitely can save money to share costs and avoid attorneys.

RR99

Welcome to the group. Sorry to hear what you are going through. It is difficult for me to even see my stbx let alone live in the same house. The pain is too great. Good luck in whatever you choose.

Welcome to DS. Sorry to hear about your circustances, been there done that with the Depression and Anxiety. That will most likely dissipate after the divorce is done and over.

I can't tell you what to do but I can say for me, there is no way in hell I could have lived with my ex. But everyone's situation is different. I would imagine though, given your current anxiety and depression level, it might not be the best situation for you.

Take care and God bless.

i don't live with my stbx.. but i have to see him on a near daily basis and it's extremely hard to get over feelings of wanting him back and for things to be like they were before he just got "tired" of me... i can't imagine living in the same household while having to deal with the pain of your dreams being trashed..

welcome and so sorry that you are joining us... it's a wonderful group of folks that are all in different stages of healing and they give us hope that it will get better