Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been living a lie for so many years, I have made out my relationship to everyone on the outside that it is perfect and that I am happy. Only my close friends know the pain that I deal with each and every day.
My boyfriend, husband, don't even know what to call him...We are only commonlaw married because we automatically met the criteria and he introduces me to everyone that I am his wife, he brags about my accomplishments to make himself look better... He tells me he will never officially marry me.
He is selfish and self centered. I don't know what it feels to hugged by him he hasn't even kissed me for 3 years. He shows me no affection at all I feel like a flower that has just been wilting away.
I justify the relationship by just knowing I have a companion to go in public with and he is my "husband" at office functions.....
The pain and private lonliness is just more than I can bear....
I took all his belongings out of the bedroom today and put it downstairs in the guest bedroom because I couldn't take it anymore. He was gone when I did it and he came home to see it and he said what is going on I said you said you want away from me, that I am the problem so you don't have to be around me....for the first time in the 6 yrs we have been together I saw actual shock and maybe even tears in his eyes but then he just walked away and said F... You.
I am planning on seeing my family back home and he said he wasn't going not even to see his family I am going alone with my children but I am really thinking about not coming back it's 1200 miles away and all of my support is there...but I just got a really good job that I have worked so hard for but I just don't know what to do...any advice out there.
My boyfriend, husband, don't even know what to call him...We are only commonlaw married because we automatically met the criteria and he introduces me to everyone that I am his wife, he brags about my accomplishments to make himself look better... He tells me he will never officially marry me.
He is selfish and self centered. I don't know what it feels to hugged by him he hasn't even kissed me for 3 years. He shows me no affection at all I feel like a flower that has just been wilting away.
I justify the relationship by just knowing I have a companion to go in public with and he is my "husband" at office functions.....
The pain and private lonliness is just more than I can bear....
I took all his belongings out of the bedroom today and put it downstairs in the guest bedroom because I couldn't take it anymore. He was gone when I did it and he came home to see it and he said what is going on I said you said you want away from me, that I am the problem so you don't have to be around me....for the first time in the 6 yrs we have been together I saw actual shock and maybe even tears in his eyes but then he just walked away and said F... You.
I am planning on seeing my family back home and he said he wasn't going not even to see his family I am going alone with my children but I am really thinking about not coming back it's 1200 miles away and all of my support is there...but I just got a really good job that I have worked so hard for but I just don't know what to do...any advice out there.
I can't tell you what to do. You have to do what feels right. You have to choose yourself.
I guess the best thing to do is to call your family and tell them everything, open up to them, tell them you need their support. Talk to them, tell them you need a sounding board. Seek counselling.
At this point in your life making a clear decision will be tough because it's about as emotional a time as you'll find.
What I do know is that without the people in my life who love and care about me I would be lost.
Thoughts of courage and support to you.
My grandma always told my mother "If you don't have anything to give yourself you don't have anything to give anyone else." I believe that that is true.
Take care of yourself. Take care of your kids. In your heart you probably know if it is over or not. And even if it is over you are bound to have moments where you feel weak. In those moments be sure to reach out to your loved ones.