Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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jstcyn 04/14/2015

And I still can't believe he is gone. I can't wrap my mind around we are not going to be together until we get old. I feel so lost, scare, and insecure. I just hate this so much. I told my sister it is like he is dead but alive but I can't see him. We go to court on 4.21.2015. I am so freaked out about how that is going to go. I pray he doesn't bring the OW assuming he is with the OW. I don't know jack about his status right now. I sure wish I could wake up from this nightmare because it really sucks!!!
Well back to work....Take care all

kbbcoop77 04/14/2015

If he brings the OW that shows his true character and hers.
2 months is really early, it gets better! Working helps, anything to distract yourself. Don't obsess on him and his new fabulous life, no one knows for sure whether anyone's really happy or not. Take care.

helerown 04/14/2015

Sorry your are feeling this way. Please stick to no contact. All the posts you have lefte gone me hope. Wishing you some sort of owacw today even though I know that sounds cliche.

jstcyn 04/14/2015

Thank you both for the words! But it sure hurts like hell and beyond!

kbbcoop77 04/14/2015

Yes it does its a pain I've never experienced and hope to never again so I will make sure I'm stronger and happier with myself before I put myself out there again. But after 13 months apart I can honestly say it gets better. It really does. You will survive it and find a new life without him and it can be liberating! I know now I would never get back with her again and we were together 24 years. She made her choice so she gets to live without me and the support I've provided throughout our relationship. Any small talk she tries to initiate, if it's not about our daughter I ignore. Her choice. Protect yourself and you'll be MUCH happier! Take care :)

murphytoronto 04/14/2015

2 months....you are in the most torturous and bomb filled part of the war zone

I wish I could hold your hand and tell you to hang in there
the future will get better

Be gentle and kind to yourself
You have an injury and treat yourself so

Small things each day are huge achievements....just to keep going

be proud of yourself for that

Hugs to you as always

prettymamakitty 04/14/2015

Hi,
So sorry I know the pain is absolute hell! I am six months out after 21 years and I am starting to feel better so it is true that time does heal. Today though I am dealing with grief again even though I already went through it once though not as bad but be prepared for that.
Try to stay NC as much as you can. He called me two days ago and that sent me into this grief cycle I'm going through now. It was unavoidable as we were communicating about our son, and it was all business but it did set me back. We will all get through this and this site is a god send! Take care!

murphytoronto 04/14/2015

Prettymam
so fresh for you too....and yes it does hurt a little less over time

Grief is an ocean and all we can do is ride the waves

I am making a conscious effort to think positive of the future and really do believe it will be good

Just so hard to let go of the eternal love and commitment I made

jstcyn 04/14/2015

Kbbcoop77 - I hope I can become as strong as you!
Murphy - I would take that hand! Thanks couldn't help but cry from your words
Pretty - Thanks and Sorry for you pain too!

kbbcoop77 04/14/2015

You will! It just takes time and a commitment to yourself. Make yourself happy. Don't rely on someone else for your happiness. I'm a much stronger person than I was even before the breakup. Getting to a place where you're comfortable alone and know you don't NEED someone is very reassuring! Being able to ignore her texts or emails when I used to crave them...yeah much better! Take care:)

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