check out your local chapter of meetup.com. that way, you might meet women friends and a man might hit on you.

try not to sweat this phase. it is important to take your time as you put in the foundation stones to build your new life on. be smart and trust your own instincts. they will show you what is best for you. :)

My take has always been that meeting a person to date isn't like ordering a pizza. Sometimes you have to wait longer than the 30 minute delivery time.

for me, i like to ride my bicycle on the popular bike trail at a nearby small artsy town. i expect to eventually run across a woman who is attractive and riding a bike on the trail too.

until i meet her, i just do other stuff. there's no hurry.

Soon....

When it is your time....it is just not right now.

(hugs)

I hear you... I'm still going through my divorce, so I'm not seeking anything right now in terms of a new relationship, but it is funny to be in this transition period. From being in a relationship, to trying to figure out what I want to do with myself and trying to figure out how to make new friends...

I've been filling my time with exercise, so I found a couple of local running clubs from trolling the internet, and meetup.com. I've also found a couple of social groups on meetup.com where I've found a couple of guys I seem to relate to. And if I ever get a free night where I want to watch a baseball game or something, I'll head over to the local pub. (Since I cancelled my cable, so I force myself to go out if I really want to catch a game.) Meetup also has a couple of single parent groups, and I'm now known to show up at church every other Sunday (who would have thought?)

That's my plan for now. These aren't surefire ways, in fact, sometimes these events are flops, but at least I'm out of the house and trying to enjoy myself...One step at a time, right? I heard somewhere that someone has to be ejoying life before they can really share it with someone else, so that's what I"m trying to to do.

thanks all. Just came back from Therapy, talking to someone helps. Just frustrated. Starting over is hard, when a good majority of your life was the other person... aarrghhh

It still hurts, and yet you are ready for the dating world?

This does not compute.

I have very little free time to get out so I always liked the online way for meeting people. If you want to try the online thing I know of 2 people who have met their spouses through match. You have to pay but I hear its worth it if your really ready to try to. I also use OK cupid and its free and better than a lot of them. Now if you are just looking to date and kind of stretch your legs and see whats out there POF is good. I know this surprises some but craigs list is not a bad place either. I have met some real interesting people from there. I would suggest not putting up your picture on there though and for all of these creating a separate email account. I would suggest staying away from our time. The reviews on that are bad and you can never tell who's a member and who isn't so you don't know if they just don't like you and won't respond or are not paying members. I know there is also eharmony but i don't know much about that.

I think you should take your time and heal from the breakup before dating again. Otherwise you're looking to someone else to fill that void in your life and to help you get over your ex. That's a recipe for disaster, and not nice to do to the other person. I know you're lonely, but take this time to find out about you and what you like to do. Once you're happy with yourself you will attract someone special. Also, just becuase your friends are attached doesn't mean you can't have the occasional girls' night out. People need to spend time with their friends apart from their significant others. That's healthy.

Just looking to stretch my legs, not looking for anything serious at all. Just would like to date here or there. Yes, I am still healing and it gets lonely.... To have a little bit of male attention would be nice. I am staying busy. I went rollerskating Sunday night by myself...

I get it. Just be truthful with those you are dating so they don't get hurt. As long as you're both on the same page I see nothing wrong with socializing with the opposite sex. Just don't use it to bury your feelings. That won't work. Have fun!

Of course, honesty for sure... Never want to hurt anyone. Just want to socialize a little more.

I wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide to do. Just don't do anything "on the rebound." You need spend time healing, not spend time with heels. Granted, not all guys are heels, but some take advantage of people who have just broken up.

(This expression gives away my age. Ann Landers used to like to say "time wounds all heals." And she was right!)

With all that being said, I need to get asked out first...