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letting him go

mariel83
mariel83
My therapist prescribed me cherry plum bach flower because she thinks that I am holding back and I've been taking it since a week. I believe it's been working in me. Since a few days, I've been imagining my ex. I see him everywhere waving goodbye to me. I saw him on my desktop background on a boat sailing away waving goodbye...I saw him in the train sitting far away on my way home. I saw him on a car smiling waving goodbye. I saw him closing the door at work. I saw him at the escalator and he looked down at me and then he was gone. He was moving farther and farther away from me... He seems all happy leaving. Every time I see him, I feel a pang of pain...
mariel83
mariel83
It's homeopathic remedy against fear. I feel calm and able to do my work so I dont think it does negative to me. It does release my emotions at the moment in a way that I am able to handle it.
mariel83
mariel83
I would need to consult my therapist for the clinical definition of hallucination. Im not sure really if these are hallucinations or not but I feel a sense of relief...
mariel83
mariel83
Thanks for your concern. I have my therapist appointment next week so I will be able to sort out this effect.
jaclyn1973
jaclyn1973
wow, a new one on me...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your therapist is a homeopathic and they're using leaves of flowers mixed in with drinking alcohol. Problem is very few info exists on side effects of this. Plants can have side effects and seeing your ex everywhere would be a concern to me and I would consider that a hallucination. Normally you don't see him everywhere and in boats on your computer screen. So there is come hallucination there.

On some sites they indicate you may have effects that they term as "detoxification" but this treatment is supposed to be "emotional" only.

The side effects I found can be headache, skin rash, and psychological dependence according to the Livestrong website.
mariel83
mariel83
As time goes by, Im aware that it does not have severe side effects. It was explained to me by my therapist, that this will help me sort out my fear of letting go and accepting that my stbx has left. When I had my last session, my therapist diagnosed that Im not letting go. So for me, imagining my ex outside waving good bye is a good sign as I am able now to face that circumstance. There is a good book on how to expel the influence of your ex on your psychology and it is quite similar to the method I am undergoing at the moment except that it is easier to handle this for me as it comes naturally with the help of the bach flower. So imagining/seeing my ex in the context of being distant and leaving gives me a sense of relief as opposed to having him still vivid and wanting him to stay. But of course, my therapist knows more what is this.