you go girl!! hugs

Those selfish bastards usually want to take advantage of you. Say enough to them. When they exploit your love, they only think you are stupid that's why you desrve what you get. They are evil and will soon go to hell.

Hi gottbreath,

That was a superb rant. Bloody well done.

I for one, love your words.

respectfully,

Mick

that was awesome and felt good to read...
maybe i willl go break something else of his....
i am angry, angry for the lies...the lies of i love you, if you loved me you would have tried harder...you said it all...way to go

Get it out, and go on to enjoy your life.

Like Dorthothy in Wizard of Oz, it's within you all along, it's just waiting for you to click your heals together, and stop waiting on someone else.

Hugs!!!

Wow that is so much how I feel especially the fist few paragraphs about how much you put in. Thanks for posting good for you for standing up and saying enough. I wish I had your strength right about now.

Friday, you will again. It's the roller-coaster. It's an aweful ride, but thankfully it does get easier in time.

Hugs.

yeah - gotta - Enough is enough is enough already!!!!!!

I commend you! This resonated with me strongly: "Well that is the last thing I will grant you...you will be left alone...You are incapable of knowing what love is...you think you know...you have no idea."

He is alone. He is broke. He did this and I am thriving. We have the power to give and take away from. No one owns it. We do.

I too think you did a marvelous job on this thread. Yes, there is a time when we need to say we simply can't do it anymore.

Mine was four years ago - I told him I was going to leave his fat ass and I did. Wow, it felt good to let out all that pent anger. The tears came later but it was worth it.

Good for you!

Lynne

YEA! You are much better off. I'm betting he finds himself at some point realizing what he destroyed. He most likely won't find someone else willing to give so 'unconditionally'. Now, you give that love to yourself. One day, some other lucky guy may receive such a love. I'm off to celebrate that I'm in a better place than my ex. Thank you.

Here! Here!

well put.....here's a song for you.....


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T0MnfaJZoIs

Well gottabreath,

I follow your rant, and applaud you! It was just what you needed and what we needed too! Man, we can relate to that totally. I just told my H, this verbatim, a couple days ago. We have been vacillating between talking like to normal people, to my ranting and tongue-lashing.

For me.....it's not only that he took it all for granted, it's that he chose to be a cheating bastard, ignore me, not validate me, and yet he enjoyed all the benefits of being treated like gold. Ya get damned tired of their fricken "entitlement" complex, and sitting like a lump on the log, not using their brains, not putting the effort in to even assimilate a pretend friendship, forget about lover, or husband. Huh???? They just do the bare minimum in the intimacy department. Then when you've had it......they hoover you back! Then they expect they can do this for a lifetime cuz they are all that!!!

And they figure cuz you gave them that "unconditional" love, and overlooked the bullshit, that this is just the way you are, and they have nothing to worry about (take it for granted, instead of honored for it and put up on a pedestal, and try to return it, hmpph), cuz when they fu*K up again, there you will remain, the doormat, the "never ending forgiver", the unconditional lover, who has no fricken feelings. Ya get tired of the insincere promises, the lies, the disrespect, and all they have is

MORE FRICKEN EXPECTATIONS OF US TO DO MORE, SAY MORE, PROVE MORE, AND BE THAT STELLAR PERSON WE PROVED TO BE,

while on the other hand

ALL WE CAN EXPECT FROM THEM IS LESS AND LESS AND LESS, AND IT JUST DOESN'T CUT IT.

THEN WE WONDER WHY, WHY THIS PERPETUATES ITSELF???
Well, you said it succintly, "We have fricken allowed it to get this far", and now we are either at the fork in the road, to decide will we continue to accept shit for gold???? After enough impasses, and conclusions, we finally get to the impasse, and say, okay, "Now I'm waving the white flag of defeat! You win! I'm done, and I have to know when to hold em, and "know when to fold em".

It is a tough reality to get too, cuz our basic inner instincts is to honor the marriage, thru thick and thin, for better for worse, but eventually you come to the conclusion that these are supposed to be spread out between 2 people, and not always the spouse sending you the worst, and you always reciprocating with the better.

Got to weigh it ounce by ounce, do I want to trade shit for gold???
Gold stays intact, as we do, but the shit, starts to stink, disintegrate, we get over the smell, and then keep finding more new shit, and it never seems to stop comin at us, never stops stinking, and we should be greatful for morsels of shit?????

You are right: ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!!