Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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MoonLight4 03/27/2013

Hi there! I write seeking support. My girlfriend of two years and I broke up a few months ago and I'm having a REALLY tough time with things. I miss her so much- it's insanely painful:( Our break-up was mutual and extremely beautiful. We broke up essentially because she wanted more (she's been out for thirteen years and has had a few long term relationships) whereas for me she was my first girlfriend (I came out at 27) and felt I wasn't ready for such a committment. I still feel so much love for her. I welcome any advice on how to heal from deep heartbreak particularly from anyone who has been through a lesbian break-up. Thank you!

hurtinandhealin2560 03/27/2013

I would recommend you talk to a counselor to help you get over the emotional pain. The other advice is to keep friends and family close right now--make plans, do things. It doesn't totally take the pain away but it does help.

I'm sorry you're hurting.

deleted_user 03/27/2013

I'm not a lesbian, so I can't help you there, but I found a board on D.S. below called Lesbian Relationship Challenges that may give you the best information and support. Good luck. Just click on the green link

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Lesbian-Relationship-Challenges/support-group

MettaBhavana 03/27/2013

I imagine the feeling of pain and heartbreak is the same whether lesbian, gay, straight or bi; the grief process after a breakup with someone you still love is intensely sad and can feel difficult to bear. However, a year after my ex-husband and I split up, I can assure you from the other side that the pain does heal with time, and you can come through it a stronger and wiser person.

In the meantime, some things that were very helpful for me included support from friends and family, a great therapist, ending contact with my ex, finding new activities to enjoy, lots of aerobic exercise, journaling, meeting new friends, and focusing my energy on myself and making myself and my life the best they could be--and of course, the wonderful support of this group!

Misred 03/27/2013

Well, I'm a firm believer in no contact. Even if the breakup was mutual. It will help speed things along some-what. You can try and be friends later. (((HUGS))) Welcome to DS, sorry you have to be here

deleted_user 03/28/2013

Is there a distinction between a "lesbian breakup" and a "non-lesbian breakup". I'd imagine the feelings are the same yah?

I think you'll eventually find the right space to but those feelings. She was your first, you cared for her, but not enough to commit. Nothing wrong with that.

Relationships have their beginnings and their ends. I am a firm believer that if a relationship doesn't last, it wasn't suppose to. You take the gifts, and the damage from it, and grow.

MoonLight4 03/28/2013

Thank you ALL very much for your input- it helps ease the pain!!!!!! Hugs!

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