Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Greetings to all, I hope that all of you are doing well or starting to do better, this is a journey that we live and learn and will get through in time. Speaking of time less than a month ago my attorney was asked by stbx attorney if I would consider marriage therapy with stbx and therapy as parents. I concluded with "no " our sons are 20 years old and 16 years old the parenting is a little too late for him and marriage therapy well I have no interest in revisiting regret. My attorney said "well he claims he has a job and he is in therapy for himself for his bipolar disorder but you have the ball in your court" I still said no and I am glad that I did because the day after I found out he did not have a job and has not returned to therapy so I saved myself alot of regret and the kids another broken promise from their father.
The divorce will be over in a year or less .. I am counting on less and in the mean time I have asked myself " Do I want to take my maiden name back ? " I really do not want his last name as it stands for nothing but our sons have the last name so I am not sure what to do. Yes I have time to think about it and I can always change my last name back to my maiden name .
Did you or do you know anyone that has been faced with this question ?
Change their mind later and do it. I was not
Ready or wanting to at the time of divorce.
My married name is easier and i like it. I am
known in this area where i live by that name.
i would Have to change everything. There
Really was no good reason to change it.
Some people find its easier to take back
Their old name so they can move on as
A single person. HUGS
Post divorce, I said I would keep my married name, as I've had this last name longer than my maiden name. Plus, it is confusing to younger kids when mom suddenly has a different last name (my kids are older, but I didn't want to do anything more that might cause them upset). My maiden name was mispronounced about half of the time, that was always a pain.
I think changing your name post divorce means more paperwork and probably another fee, but really not that big of a deal.
But it does make me mad when I think about it so I may change my mind in the future
Several years later, I briefly dated a woman who kept her married name, she said it was more work than it was worth to change it back, and she said it made it easier when signing her kids up for school and such.