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Just When I Thought I Was Feeling Better

ReneeS66
ReneeS66
I knew it was too good to be true. I started feeling a little better about things and of course, I'm feeling horrible today. I can't stand feeling this way. I feel empty, sad and hopeless. First I'm mad at him, then I miss him, then I want him back, then I don't. It's awful. We had been talking about maybe trying to work things out, but to me there has been so much that has happened, so much hurt and I don't trust him. I know that without trust, there is nothing but I do still love him even though he can be so mean and hurtful. We got into a huge fight last night and he has blocked me on his phone so I can't call or text him. That may be a good thing though. I tried so hard not to have contact with him, but I ended up caving in a few weeks ago. I just wish things didn't turn out like this. They didn't have to. I also wish I could stay angry instead of getting sad. When I'm sad like this, I feel weak.
Heathersfaith
Heathersfaith
I felt pretty much the same way today. Except with my emotions . mainly sad, just a sense of loss, and contemplating just staying with him just so I don't have to go through this process. for me there is just not alot to miss. I could miss his presense, I could miss the fact that I don't have anyone to really lean on. I could miss his help with paying half the bills.
Miss the fact that I don't have a partner, although he wasn't much of a partner. sadness does make u feel weak , I guess thats why I was feeling so drained today. Being angry is not something I want either, Anger will just keep you stuck. I guess its okay to awknowledge the anger but then let it go. Peace and blessings
stillbitterjaded
stillbitterjaded
They say "it's an emotional roller coaster"

I say it's a bad carnival ride on acid.

It passes, I promise. I'm in a low period right now, trying to desperately avoid jumping on the crazy train.....
dreamliketrance
dreamliketrance
I totally understand. I was doing great for a few weeks until I had to see my stbxh for some divorce stuff. Its been a week since then and I feel awful everyday. Its getting a little better but I couldn't believe that 5 minutes together and it seemed to shake any confidence I had about my decision to leave. And I agree with you 100% about the trust. That is ultimately what did my relationship in. Even after discovering texting and innapropriate emails I tried to work things out for a year but he never did what it took to repair the trust...in fact the lies just continued and there came a point where I knew I would never be able to trust him again like you should a husband so I let go and moved out. I still miss him though. I wish I could be more angry but I can't. My therapist always tells me to feel what I'm feeling but to never let it control me. I don't know if that helps. You are not weak. If there is one positive to my marriage ending its that I have learned how I want to be treated and how I DESERVE to be treated. Everyone deserves to be treated with kindness and respect. You too! Hang in there!