I feel for you. Its only been 2 months since my woman left me, and we have a son together. Shes with somebody else also. The only way I am making it is by having absolutely no contact with her or even know anything that is going on in her life. Luckily, my mom does all the commucating with her and picks up and drops off my son. It sounds like you need to have a talk with your family and try to get sone better support going for yourself. You're not gonna get past it if you are immersed right in the middle of everything your ex is doing. So that would be my advice, is start trying to figure out a plan and get people on board of how to not see him or know whats going on in his life as little as posssible. Dealing with your own thoughts in your head is work enough.

First, go into your car and just scream. It helps.

I think you should sit with your family and be honest with them. That it's still painful and you don't want them to talk about him in your presence. They should respect you enough for that. Tell them, you need to heal and get on with your life.

As for a kid...that's always tough. Just be civil but you don't need to be more than that. Minimum contact. It will improve.

Write out your emotions, it helped me some. Focus on you. The best way to get back at him is to be happy in life. I know easier said than done. Just think, you've given him 17 more months while he hasn't given you anything.

I use a rubber band. Anytime I think of my ex I snap it.

Hang in there!

Thank you both ! Appreciate the time you took to give me advice !

I agree with talking to your family. I thought you were going to say that they hang out with your family. Phew! Just tell them not to discuss his business with you.... EVEN IF YOU ASK!
Wanting him to be worse off than you is what you ultimately would like to hear. However he will put on his Facebook face when in public so you will never know exactly when they are miserable.

Very true! Thank you.

It will get easier over time to think about your ex , and not feel negative feelings towards him. It's been two and a half years since my husband left me, and I still think about him but no longer on a daily basis is those feelings about him fueling hate, hurt,or displeasure, over him. You may not avoid thoughts about him, but those thought will shift to thoughts without negative feelings attached.

I'm sorry, I know it can be so frustrating and the more you try to get him out of your head, the more he is in it! Scream into a pillow, let it out. Also, have you talked to your family and just asked them not to give you reports? They probably think they are being supportive but just tell them you need to get over him. Try focusing on your child and only communicating when you have to. Keep busy and keep your mind busy. Then your thoughts won't wonder as much. Even if it's just reading something enjoyable, it will help keep your mind focused.

Thank you both for the kind words ! I really appreciate the advice and the time you took to give me feedback.

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