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Just want to run

milady60
milady60
OK, I can strive to cut off contact with him, but how I wish I could get rid of the reminders. The places in my home where we spent time together, the movies, the restaurants, even the places I have to pass as I go about my day. It wasn't always like this, our relationship was warm and loving before he decided to dump me and passing those places makes me want to cry. And the mutual friends who now have to sort themselves out: his friends, my friends, our friends, close friends who know what has happened and friendly acquaintances who don't. I wish I could sell this place, burn all the furniture and move.
Missy73
Missy73
That sounds like a perfectly normal reaction. It will get better. My stbx moved out four months ago and just being in the house used to make me cry. I sometimes feel nostalgic when I see a picture of us in happier times but his presence is barely missed at this point. Hang in there.
athletic4ws
athletic4ws
Moldau, I've been screaming the same thing since my break up 3 months ago..lol. What I wouldn't give to move. Or at least replace everything I have. I have changed so much in these 3months, however it's not enough.
I'm not sure how to go to many places in this town, and there are certain places I don't even try (walk mart)
The only advice I can give you is to try new places, redecorate as much as you can, remove any major memory triggers from your every day sight, try to go to places you never went with your ex, or at least never went many times, try new things, meet new people. I'm always on the search for the new. Hang in there .. Peace be with you
yougospam
yougospam
Know the feeling well. My counselor suggested that anytime I run across something that reminds me of my stbx to either get rid of it or tuck it away somewhere that I don't have to keep looking at it. I can deal with it at a later time when I am healthy. He also suggested changing the dcor in my bedroom, maybe paint it a color YOU want, new bedding, change the furniture around, put girly things out, anything that makes it YOUR space. I didn't have to do much since he was never home anyway. His chair still sits in the corner and I'm debating on burning it, lol or giving it away, although as time ticks by its not bugging me as much as I thought it would.
Regarding all of the many places you have been together (it's a killer, I agree) my counselor said that whenever I go to one of these places, or drive by to try and not think of it as a bad place, try and remember it as a place that once made you happy, try and take "them" out of it. These little things do help. I'm sorry you have to go thru this, its tough but the support on here is amazing, it helps you realize that you are not alone, many of us feel your pain! Good luck!
milliejay
milliejay
O - so normal how you feel - it's tough. I went through same. Moving wasn't an option for me. If you haven't already - put away anything in your home that reminds u of him. Try to take different routes and avoiding places you went together, in other words, try to change your routine whenver possible. But this is a tough one and one that lingers for a bit (the memories) - give yourself time. One day at a time.