I like to post on this board and check in with friends and journal of failing that get outside and walk or do something. The important thing is find SOMETHING to occupy your mind because that's where the problem lies. Easier said than done believe me I know but it's better to force yourself. Once u start it gets a little easier. It's when u lay down and start thinking then the thoughts can overtake you :(
Hope u find some peace :) Hang in there

I know this exact feeling you feel and I know how painful it can be. It feels like there is a heavy pit in your stomach and you feel scared all the time. The feeling does go away after a while, and sometimes it comes back in waves for me. To be honest, when the feeling is intense not much can take it away. What worked for me was reading, reading books about people going through struggles in their life and overcoming it. It got my mind off my own problems and reminded me that I'm not alone. Journaling my feelings helped, it didn't feel better immediately but a few hours later I would feel somewhat relieved that some of my feelings were out. Try your best to be doing anything that keeps you distracted even if you still feel the sick feeling, it helps it slowly fade. I'm sorry you're going through this and just know that I know this exact feeling, and it does go away

Unfortunately these are the normal unpleasant feelings that we must face when dealing with a loss. Going to work is therapeutic for me. Talking to family helps. Journaling also helps. Setting goals and working towards them give new meaning and purpose to your life, time will take care of the rest, but know you are not alone and just take it one breathe at a time one step at a time and know these feelings won't last forever. Hugs

Thanks. It does help a bit to know that others are with me in this and that ti won't last. It just gets so darn overwhelming sometimes.

I am the exact same way. I keep remembering those few happy moments in the last couple years...the first 5-6 years were great, then it was downhill.....

but Im so sad. Im so broken...I have that pit in my stomach...

I havent ate all day and I have no appetite...

I already miss my marriage and we havent even started this process

I know how you feel. I'm hanging on to the adivce here that says it will get better with time and trying to keep my mind and body active with other things - works sometimes, but sometimes not. Hang in there.

Yep, I know the exact feeling too. It is really terrible and for me nothing make me feel better.
When I'm not at the lowest low, a good funny tv show helps since I don't watch much tv. But I can't even focus on that when I am at my worst. At that point just crying my eyes out until I can't cry another tear and time are the only things I can do. But it does eventually pass and although it may return again, it eventually gets easier and easier.

I hope you feel better soon.

I, too, know this exact feeling. It's so heavy..and so sad for what could have been. The promise of the relationship. it's too bad sometimes we just can't bend another person to our will, or always revive a relationship that is ending because it has major flaws. You can love a person with all your being and it still is a relationship that was there to teach you something and not meant for longer than it lasted. Letting go is a huge feeling of loss..that pit in your stomach. Like Milliepoo, don't find much that helps when I'm that down. You just have to let the waves pass over you.

What helps in the long run is journaling, remembering the reasons you left, reading other people's experiences on this board, exercise, eating well, and meditation and positive affirmations. Also, branching out to new experiences helps me a lot! It can be uncomfortable at first, but when I look and see all the wonderful new connections I made, I know I'm on the right path. I promise there will be a break in the clouds and you will feel the heaviness lift..and one day it won't come back.

Thank you Panther. Very helpful.