Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I guess I am used to the way WE did things. Today I took the kids out on the boat. Have done it before by myself, but today was different. I pulled it out, dewinterized it, packed up and headed out.. not to our normal lake, but my dad's. All while the Stbx watched but also helped to put sun screen on.
My step sister had a friend over, she was cool, but that turned into 5. I got to ferry them around on my boat. I grew tired of that quickly. Plus all of their kids.
My Kids just wanted the beach after a short ride. Had I known that I could have saved a ton of money for gas for the truck and boat. People just don't respect your stuff either.
I guess this is just a trigger. I wanted to spend the time with the kids, not socialize with people I don't know. Let alone get used.
Just so different from the way WE did things. It feels off or worse wrong. I hate feeling like this.
Alone in a crowd. Sorry to post this, but I'm just struggling with the alonenes.
It's best if you can keep things as "normal" for them as possible right now. I know we all say you're never alone but the reality is we are. YOU and only you are going to pull yourself through this. No one else can do it for you. It gets easier though. Slowly but surely, day by day.
Its mostly From grieving and being in your misery.
I felt like i had a black cloud over my head.
I think you are doing well, it takes time to Adjust
when its not something you want. I Did not want
my divorce.
I wanted my good husband Back at least when
things were good and we were Happy. It seems
so long ago now. It had been bad for far too long.
I had to let go and move on as he already had. My
marriage had gotten to only about financials by the
end and its not a pleasant feeling. HUGS
Divorce. Working too many long hours not really
focusing. Just going thru the motions in trying to
cope and Deal with all the emotional, legal and
Financial issues going on all around me.
Divorce and separation is not for sissies. The
emotional Part and grieving makes you feel
uncontrollable. It takes time To move thru the
grief. Be gentle with yourself and try to focus
On your childrens emotional wellbeing.
Divorce care would help you a lot. I had divorce
rage When i started that program. I got it down
To healthy anger and i could forgive my ex and
Myself. That took me a long time to get there.
I was very glad to have a good lawyer watching
Out for me. It hard on the person going thru the
Divorce to be objective or have any clarity about
their Own life and trying to dismantle the marriage.
HUGS
I don't feel like super dad, like I normally do. :(
I looked for divorce Care, and no groups are around right now. Maybe a few weeks and something will come along.
Can for yourself and your childrens sake.
Your stbx It won't be so easy if you engage
with her, its Best to use lawyers, text or email.
My ex and i were in a war zone and we just
Stayed away from each other as best as we
Could. We still co shared the property and his
Business was there so i had to deal with Him
on many levels. I survived it, i didn't like Any
of it though.
It takes two people to make it work not one. If
Your relationship was on the toxic side there
Generally is no going back or fixing it. Mine was
Toxic and it was not of my making, i should have
Left years ago, HUGS