sorry to hear that I went through the same with my ex ew had no children either., Mine did a lot worse

Aral, I am so sorry you are going through this but with his drinking and abusive past you are doing the right thing. Stay protected with the court order and maybe arm yourself with pepper spray in case he gets out of control. Hope you stay well!

Sorry he's acting like this... you seem to be a very strong woman and anticpating most of this. Keep solid, you are doing the right thing. I am very glad there are no children involved.

You definitely did the right thing. To stay in an abusive relationship in the hopes that things will get better is just wishful thinking. If anything, he would have gotten worse. Thank goodness you didn't have children.

I would definitely contact a domestic violence shelter for advice on what to do in this situation. Yes, he is going to say things about you, but don't rise to the bait, no matter what he says. If he can get you to respond, he will begin to manipulate you to get you back--this is what alcoholics and abusers do.

Think of your safety--be aware of your surroundings, keep your doors locked, screen your calls. Have a plan for if he shows up at your home or place of work. Let co-workers know about the protection order so they can keep an eye out. Have a safe place to go in the event you encounter him and he becomes violent.

I will pray for your safety.

If he is posting stuff on Facebook about you, give that to your attorney and it may be in violation of the protective order (depending on what the protective order specifically states). If what he posts on Facebook may impact a present or future employer and either get you fired or not hired at another job, then that will potentially be against the protective order.

My ex would beat me up. When we separated, he could not touch me physically but he actually came to the home and threatened me. He also called my one boss and asked if the boss was having an affair with me. When I took a 4 day vacation (that included Saturday and Sunday which I normally didn't work), my ex called into work demanding to know where I was and was so bad they put the entire workplace on lockdown. My ex went to my workplace and that was trespassing and didn't see my car there.

The judge wasn't pleased and he took the brunt of his actions. I had an order of protection too. Anger like that is usually their weak spot, but they don't realize that.

Thank you all for your kind words. I know this shouldn't bother me, but I am pretty hurt to find out that his family is making me out to be the bad guy b/c I got an order of protection that requires him to stay out of a house that he still pays for half of at the moment. They completely disregard the fact that he is an alcoholic and has been both mentally and physically abusive.

Families can be enablers and end up not only supporting alcoholics but also violent abusers. You finally see the family for who they really are and cannot get involved with them because they refuse to accept the reality of the situation.

My ex's mother also cut off all contact with our son. No cards, presents--nothing. It's tough to explain to a child why Dad and Grandma disappeared out of his life and don't even send birthday cards or Christmas cards (forget even the presents) to acknowledge the boy exists.

My ex's mother now has gone through her son having 5 wives (at last count), so she is either needs a scorecard or has just given up.