Of course you are emotional....it's only expected. I remember the day I went and filed and signed to serve him. In fact I cried most of the time I went to see my attorney lol. But hang in there, try to do something relaxing and deep breaths

Yes, it's a very emotional time for you. I cried all of the time in the beginning stages, didn't matter who was around, I was a mess. I had a really good friend volunteer to go with me when I signed the last of the paperwork. Didn't think I needed her but boy did I!!! I hope you have a good support around you during these next few months. Also consider this just one of those things on your "to do" list that needs to be done in order to start your new life. Hang in there and know you'll get thru this, if I can make it, anyone can....hugs

I'm so sorry. That is the thing I am most afraid of. We haven't gotten to that point just yet. But it scares the hell out of me. Ready for it or not I imagine there is no way around it being a complete emotional hell

I made the call to set up appointment. It feels good to make a decision though.

Thank you for your responses. Originally I was going to wait till after February when my work load was better but I just could not stand the limbo. And to see my Stbx moving on by getting a new apartment (after we agreed he'd wait) and pretty much gone all the time... I need closure sooner than later. I knew I was filing but was surprised at how emotional I am. Yes deep breaths. Nothing I can do now

I'm so sorry. Of course it is upsetting and emotional. I totally understand the limbo....i am there now and will likely soon be filing myself. It is good you are moving on too since he is moving forward. Sending hugs your way.....keep up the deep breaths and try to remember things will get easier in time.

You have the made the first step towards closure....think about how you have been feeling. I never wanted to drag that out, so when I knew my marriage was over I did anything and everything to take care of ME and stop slumming around.

Wait till you see both your names on the official complaint document. That really struck a cord with me. And then later to see you children's names listed, the tears rolled for me then.

The best advice I can think of now is to remember that from this point forward, you can treat the divorce as a business transaction. You don't cry at work when things get difficult (maybe in the bathroom stall), so don't cry in your lawyer's presence, if you can help it. And by cry I mean breaking down sobbing, being incoherant, not being able to think. That's saved for the car ride home! The blaming, guilting, the he said/she said, betrayals - all of that doesn't matter one bit anymore. The judge will not care, your lawyer might not even care about who wronged who or who treated who unfairly. It's all about what's legally just, so do your best to help your lawyer help you. Good luck and I hope for you a speedy outcome.

Ugh now I'm crying. My poor kids. I feel so bad for them that we (well he) couldn't work on our relationship for them....

KoKo I honestly feel your pain completely. I met with the lawyer, signed papers and changed my mind. My lawyer proceeded with custody and support agreements. It is so hard for us. My husband got his own place too and would rather be any where except at my home. It makes you feel so awful. The one person who promised to love you, does not. KoKo hang in there. We are all in this together.

I think you are amazing and strong Koko. Your journey that you've shared with us has not been an easy one . I am cheering for you in the background and your better life, I believe, begins now.
The kids will be fine as long as you keep your head up and continue to love them.
And you didn't fail them, this is life and they will respect you more as adults for being strong enough to move forward through such a tough time.
You are okay ;)
HUGS*

Koko I have never been able she to restrain my feelings if you want to cry you cry. This is the only way I made through it xoxo. My lawyer and any good one gets that