Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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Just be friends

betrayed912
betrayed912
Is it ever a good idea to be friends with someone you dated while you still have feelings for him?
kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
Nope doesn't work. Maybe years down the line when you're totally over them but otherwise its a one way road to painville
betrayed912
betrayed912
Thanks. I'm sure I asked an obvious question. There's really no reason to be friends with someone you went out with.
sja
sja
I second coop. Down the road, but not now. Don't torture yourself.
jbuck
jbuck
Agree with kbbcoop...

I've read books where people who divorce with kids are friends, and some are even good friends. That's cool--but it's not for me.

Wanting or longing for more and then not being fullfilled... that will lead to resentment and pain, long term heart ache. I even see some guys employ this tactic as a way to stay around and hope the female changes her mind.... sucks to be them.