Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi, My name is Shantelle and live in southern Louisiana (not loving it) but anyway, as with all stories you can't say everything in one sitting or short paragraph. Separated for the third time from my husband of 14 years, the other two times were to short and we really didn't accomplish anything. This time Is much more serious. Its been six months and I asked him where we are going, are we planning a reconciliation or even trying to work on one?
He said he can't tell me that yet, that he just doesn't feel the same about me. When I say I'm devastated, its not a good enough word. Its just not strong enough. We were sooo close people called us peanut butter and jelly.
We each have our own recolletions of how things went down, and they dont match, so we each have our hurts. I think the best thing is just stop contacting him, begging, crying or anything at all, trying to remain friends, because it just drags everything out.
Problem is, he has been my only love, I absolutely cannont imagine a long term life without him. I have no idea how to bounce back from this...
He said he can't tell me that yet, that he just doesn't feel the same about me. When I say I'm devastated, its not a good enough word. Its just not strong enough. We were sooo close people called us peanut butter and jelly.
We each have our own recolletions of how things went down, and they dont match, so we each have our hurts. I think the best thing is just stop contacting him, begging, crying or anything at all, trying to remain friends, because it just drags everything out.
Problem is, he has been my only love, I absolutely cannont imagine a long term life without him. I have no idea how to bounce back from this...
The truth is, time will take care of most of what you're experiencing, but I can remember hearing that and not feeling any comfort at all.
I can also remember many many times wishing I could just get his memory erased from me so I wouldnt have to feel the "missing him", or the pain of feeling like a limb had been amputated. It didn't help much that I was the one who orchestrated the breakup.
All I knew was it hurt like hell.
Just keep going, keep getting through this hour, this day, this week.
Put yourself, as much as you can, on auto-pilot. Fall onto your butt and rest when you need to, but just know you are going to make it.
You will.