:( I am so sorry you're hurting. My husband left me December 12th and has filed for divorce...I'm struggling to accept it also. We talked every break he had at work, shared everything, and now he is treating me like I'm such a nuisance and someone he would rather pretend doesn't exist. I don't have any real advice since I'm struggling also, but you aren't alone in this. I'm so sorry.

Your friend was smart to tell you to check out this site. I know it has helped my healing process along faster. Getting advice and feedback from others that are currently experiencing the same thing or others that have survived and are now well on their way to happiness. Go back and read posts that sound like what you are feeling. You will find comfort in hearing what people have to say. Stay strong!

3 months is very early,do not despair! I am in a similar situation and often long to talk about the trivial minor things that my husband and i would chat about. I also would like to forget and just move on...everyone tells me..time heals..but heck, i wish it were alot sooner rather than later.
Just take each day as they come, fill your life with things you'd like to try, join groups,do whatever you have to do to give your heart&mind a rest from all those unanswered questions and memories....

Yes - this website has been such a help to me as well! I totally get what you mean. My now ex husband is nowhere near the person that I married. It is just so painful and unexpected. This though will make you a stronger person. It has made me, and even though you are not feeling it really now, things will get better. His being so distant and different than the man I married I must say, has made it a little easier for me to move on. I know that I would never let him back in my life again, and that I deserve better and to be happy.

So you are here with the rest of us! This is a sucky club to belong too. Reach out when you need too, we are all here struggling to find up! When one of us is down, there is usually someone that can pick us up. I am 4 months in, gets a little better each week.

Feel for you.. hang in there. My x wife took off with our 18 yo daughter a couple of weeks ago. I am left in a house full of memories. to make it worse, I am retired, on disability, and daughter was the only one helping me. I don't have family, and the 2 friends I had passed. talk about small world, of isolation. Hang in there.. you can get through it. Don't lose the faith

Broken35~I don't know that forgetting what you had with your ex is what the goal is when you are looking to heal and move forward. I know it hurts to know how happy you once were with her, only to come back to the reality now of being separated. But things change, healing happens, and life gets better with time. Looking back at past relationships I've found that each person helped reveal things in myself that made me ready for the relationship I am now in with my husband. I had to take time to understand what wasn't working in those situations to be ready for the right situation now. How life is now won't always be that way. I don't know if you two had children, but if you did it can be helpful to use this time to bond with them. Work is a nice distraction as well. I don't know if you attend a church or have a local active community, but it can be nice to get out of the house and try some fun events in town that you enjoy. Exercise is a good stress reliever and antidepressant. Nature really soothes the senses so its good to get out and walk or ride a bicycle, grab a cup of coffee and go to a bookstore, or walk your dog if you have one. Once you allow yourself to grieve and heal, you'll find some good clarity and encouragement in life. I don't know what your beliefs or values are personally, but maybe now is a good time to find strength and encouragement in those as well. And journaling really was a great release to process everything in a healthy way without causing harm to myself or those I love. Hang in there man. No one knows what the future holds, but there is always a hope and a peace. Prayers and Blessings Friend :)