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Its so hard to move on

radrm
radrm
Why do I have such a hard time breaking up with this guy. AFter a few days i'm having withdrawls, like i want to see him, talk to him, but he is no good for me, he said he doesnt love me, he put his X wife above me, let her and his grown daughter treat me badly, and why the heck i want to be involved and get hurt over and over, i dont really want to, but i find it so tempting to give in. I tried to text him, i dont know if he got it. But i feel so weak, letting go of my strength to move one, i know its a bad realtionship, but i keep going back for more. dang, any suggestions or help here?
deleted_user
deleted_user
because you feel like if he is gone you have nothing and being treated badly is better than nothing. WRONG he treats his X better than you. WRONG you love him. you don't want to be alone and it's scary. the unknown is hell. you feel like you won't find anyone else, but the truth here is you will find yourself and then you probably will feel so much better at him being gone.
ChiTownBear
ChiTownBear
Yeh, for some it is about having some one that they want in their life regardless of how they get treated. I can relate so trust me.

it is hard to break away, but you have to. You have to do it for you so that you can move on to what your life is meant to be. People ask for signs all the time in order to leave or get involved with someone or something. It is funny though, when they are given the signs, they reject them. That is why we stay in the vicious cycle we create.

Break it! Do something different for once to break the cycle ... you will be much happier and on to better things for you ...
deleted_user
deleted_user
Start seeing a counselor.. not only is HE letting the ex wife and daughter treat you badly.. but continuing to put yourself in their company you are too... You really need to know you deserve so much better.., a man your with should have only 3 priorities.. 1st kids.. (not grown ass women who should know better... but children who need them).. 2nd himself.. they should know their own self worth and know how to make themselves happy without a relationship... its to much pressure to make them happy if they cant do it themselves.. and 3.. the woman or man they are with..

Im not analyzing or criticizing you.. seems you have self esteem issues.. could be because you've been pushed around by these 3 you speak of.. You have to know YOUR self worth.. and know you are not going to settle for anything less... Therapy is helping me.. perhaps it can help you

And stay away from the triangle of evil of your ex and his.. you deserve better.. but until you realize it.. you will be stuck in a vicious circle