Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Jorgecruz17 09/09/2016

MY wife and I have had our probelms in the past and we have always been able to overcome them. It was until i feel she met new friends co-workers that had something she felt was missing from her. I know and understand my part in this but I feel its never to late to try well atleast if there is still love. She let me know last year she did not love me as her husband but more so just a the father of our 2 kids from then on she planed out her leave. Since then I have had ups and downs now more ups but still not sure if I should move on completly or try one last stand I love with all my heart and this kills me i see her but i dont dare show any emotion I feel she has moved on since long ago but she has stated she hasnt all she does is go out party and me i go out with family. I let go of all my friends once i got with her 10 yrs ago and my kids are my bestfriends they are all what i live in world for i have no one to talk to really. I just stay to myself my kids love to be with me I think its that i show more attention to them one on one from what they say. I always now plan for us and see what happens she is not the same perosn she is to out there and i fear i have lost her and from time to time i feel its my fault but also i just feel alone eman while she has all her freinds and then i learned she even had guy friends when i couldnt even talk to any girl friend or not. alot of things point to move on but it so hard i dont want my kids to raised like this I wasnt she was her mother left her and her father raised her and her brother and i feel like the circle is just repeating and i dont want that but i dont want to waste my time either.......

mirandac 09/09/2016

I would go to therapy and divorce care.org helps a lot with the
Grieving and Let yourself grieve your losses.

The only thing you can do is take care of you and your children.
She sounds like a checked out spouse and very long gone. That
was my Ex he refused to work on us. He was emotionally detached
He had other women he was interested in Much more than his wife.

It is hard to get yourself out there, many of us are struggling with
That you are not alone. Its the dumper vs the dumpee, the dumper
Wanted it and are happy acting in their new roles. They are no
Longer any one you know and your past life together is a closed
Book.

You did not mention divorce thats hard living in limbo land when
They are off playing it up. I am glad you did not jump into dating
That does not help anything especially if you are not divorced yet.
Let her do her thing, you be the honorable person you are. HUGS

jojored 09/09/2016

I'm so sorry you're in this place. I think you already see that she has moved on. Whether it's because her own mom left that she's become sort of an absent mother and wife herself, you may never know. You can't control what she wants or does. You see that she has moved on (parties, really? she's moved on), so now it's time for you to put the pieces of your life back together. Do what will be best for YOU in the long run, keeping your children's welfare at the forefront of your decisions. It's a long and tough road ahead, but if you act with honesty and integrity, you will find a better life for youself. Good luck to you.

lb7268 09/09/2016

Yes let her go. Don't waste your time or emotional energy. I was where you are - less the children -back in January. Once their minds are made up, there's no changing it. My ex-wife's mother also dumped her husband, so yes this goes in circles. Be strong and take care of the children.

Jorgecruz17 09/09/2016

Thank you so much this is much needed I have found a group that meets on Mondays so I will going to those meetings I really am trying it's just so hard I am at my best when my kids are around without them I am nothing I take any and every time they want or need to come over I have told them they don't need to ask me if I want them here I always want them here it's so hard I never thought we would end up this way

mirandac 09/09/2016

Jorge its all hard, many of us are hurting and
depressed, sad and in pain. We need to start
a whole New life as a single person.

Not where i thought i would Be at 59. I use the
B Word for him alot. I am looking at cheap retire
Ment place In florida all alone after 30 years. God
has better plans For me i know, first i need to get
happy again and that it is not easy.

Rage, Betrayal and rejection take awhile to work
thru I still have lots to face and process, its a hard
Long journey to emotional stability.

If you are going to divorce care i went multiple
Times i still pop in on occassion every group is
A little different. Different people and facilitators.
Its a little religious based but most of us were
There for the same reasons. That did not vary
Infidelity and some with abuse and addiction
issues that they dont address. HUGS

lamarwilson 09/10/2016

Once they have checked out they're gone. I didn't want my son to grow up with divorced parents either, but marriage takes a commitment from two people, not just one. Focus on your kids, that's what I do. They need all the love they can get. My STBX would rather be out or on vacation with her new boyfriend, than be a mom. It's her loss, they are only young once.

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