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I guess I was due to have one but tonight was really a tough night emotionally as I had trouble keeping her out of my thoughts.
It was a quiet night as far as work went, with few calls and I just had to roll around and make sure my squad didn't need any help. That left me plenty of time to think and that's where the problem was.
I kept thinking things like: why wasn't I good enough? Did I do something that made her want to leave me? What does he have to offer that I don't?
Why did she stop loving me?
I know it is self-inflicted torture but I couldn't help it tonight..no matter how hard I tried to think about other things, those thoughts kept returning all night long. I don't know, maybe it was the full moon or just my psyche telling me that it was time for another coaster ride but it was a tough night to get thru.
Hopefully I won't have anymore like this for awhile... I'd almost forgotten how much "fun" they are when they hit!
It was a quiet night as far as work went, with few calls and I just had to roll around and make sure my squad didn't need any help. That left me plenty of time to think and that's where the problem was.
I kept thinking things like: why wasn't I good enough? Did I do something that made her want to leave me? What does he have to offer that I don't?
Why did she stop loving me?
I know it is self-inflicted torture but I couldn't help it tonight..no matter how hard I tried to think about other things, those thoughts kept returning all night long. I don't know, maybe it was the full moon or just my psyche telling me that it was time for another coaster ride but it was a tough night to get thru.
Hopefully I won't have anymore like this for awhile... I'd almost forgotten how much "fun" they are when they hit!
It's awful how those moments hit you when you think you're doing so well. But hopefully as you keep moving forward they will become less frequent, and you'll be able to bounce back quicker each time.
Hang in there, your emotions make you who you are, and show that you're a caring person.
It sucks. It doesn't make you feel any better....but the hill and dips of the roller coaster seem to be leveling out a little for you....
We are here for you, buddy :)
BIG HUGS!
Can become a wolf when the wolf bane blooms and the moon is full and bright....
That may explain it...think I should have changed my avatar to the Wolfman!!!
I have learned that those night are just bound to happen. At least until we have worked through this and reach acceptance. I don't have much to add as the last few days have been a little trying for me as well. I just wanted you to know I can relate and that I am praying for you.
Sending you cyber ((((((hugs))))) and wishes for joy in the morning.
Kaw, doesn't the dream thing just suck? Some of them can be so disturbing they can set the tone for the rest of the day. I wish my stbx would stay out of my head and dreams, he isn't welcome in either one anymore. Too bad that never stops it from happening :/
Hahahaha there is something slightly vindicating about that :)
HUGS!
It sucks so much when you get those nights where you can't stop thinking about them, why and how and you just want to scream and cry.
Here's hoping they become further apart and less
I personally think that 2 individual getting together is somewhat very difficult and complex as each one of us has own personality, beliefs, religion etc...
I heard someone say 10 ppl can view something (idea, meterial etc..) and every single one of them will tell their own perspective and view (all in diff angle ?)
Even if 2 ppl fully openly communicate everything, sometime something do bound to go through "misunderstanding".
Or maybe in this case, there wasnt deep internal connection between you two ? (more than just having fun as couple)
If you realy want to know, maybe you should just ask her straight out instead of wasting time and energy wondering and making assumptions about the reason