Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
...here. Mainly because I had a relapse last winter and I felt going over the same old ground over and over again was just keeping the pain and torment front and center in my head and making it that much harder to just let go.
What a difference a year makes. It's been about 21 months since the XGF made her final decision and I can honestly say I'm glad she stuck to it and did not allow me to step back into a relationship with her.
I can now look back with objectivity and clarity, knowing it's best the relationship ended when it did with no ambiguity. I'm now very comfortable and accepting of that outcome as I truly understand the vast differences in our personalities and outlook on life.
I'd also like to thank everyone here for all the support you gave me. Believe me, it was HUGE! I really appreciate the advice, kind words and hugs! :-) You definitely helped me navigate through some very difficult times!
What a difference a year makes. It's been about 21 months since the XGF made her final decision and I can honestly say I'm glad she stuck to it and did not allow me to step back into a relationship with her.
I can now look back with objectivity and clarity, knowing it's best the relationship ended when it did with no ambiguity. I'm now very comfortable and accepting of that outcome as I truly understand the vast differences in our personalities and outlook on life.
I'd also like to thank everyone here for all the support you gave me. Believe me, it was HUGE! I really appreciate the advice, kind words and hugs! :-) You definitely helped me navigate through some very difficult times!
great to hear
Wishing you a happy holiday season!
Yes, I'm doing quite well now, but I have to admit I was at times frustrated and even a little dejected that it seemed to take so long to get over a short (5+ month) but intense relationship.
It's interesting. Intellectually I knew there would be ups and downs. I also knew it would eventually pass. Of course that didn't really help much when I was down.
I'm not even certain when I finally and truly let go. I only know it was some time between this past Spring and now. When I stopped rehashing and trying to assess where things went wrong and who did what right and who did what wrong. At some point it just didn't matter.
So now I start a new gig (same firm, different client) in a new city January 2nd. It's not too far away (about 85 miles) but far enough to where I am relocating because I'm not going to commute 85 miles one-way. I'm really excited and looking forward to the change.
The new gig is good for 4-5 years and the old gig will be wrapping up some time middle of next year. I was kind of stressing about that considering how bad the economy and job market is, even in IT.
Salute'