Congratulation for the great website.
We just ended a relationship of 15 years. It has been a painful decision. I am alone with the dog. I can barely function, at times. I miss partner, but a relationship is, first of all, a compromise between two individuals. That was not happening. Probably, it has never happened, since we moved from abroad.
For partner, there was only: “my way or not way”. For many years, I was very accommodating, but two years ago I decided to change my approach. As a result, discussions became a daily routine on the top of other problems.
Thank you all.
I am at a better place with my ex and his wife than I have ever been. I can actually have a conversation with him on the phone and keep my cool. When either one of them does something annoying I just do an eyeroll, chalk it up to them being them, and move on with my life. What I'm struggling with is the double identity crisis. Years ago I went to going away party for my mother when she...
This is a link by Darlene Lancer https://www.whatiscodependency.com/trauma-abuse-breakups-divorce-ptsd/#more-13463 about abusive relationships and moving forward.After reading this and speaking to my therapist by phone today, as I progress through the begining of trauma work I'm finding that this article speaks to 'me codependent' to what I hope to achieve Some Day as 'Me, healed of...