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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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llmt 04/26/2011

I have not been on here in some time. I have been dealing with this stuff for over 2 years and it will never end. Actually, they say it gets easier...I find it gets harder. The past 2 weeks have been sheer hell. The house needs to be sold, the assets still divided, my kids are acting out in all sense of the word. I am working full time, still living in the same house as my exH, trying to make it while he goes with her on weekends he doesn't have the kids. I need to find a place to live but the area and any CS is not going to help me. The CS is just that for the kids and it will go to daycare. I am lost, taking panic attacks nightly, and yes, I am on meds to help cope. I thought at this point I could come on and say, yep, it is better, but alas I cannot. I can't deal with this anymore...I am giving up on it all. I don't even know how to tackle one thing and I can't even put one foot in front of the other anymore. I thought I cried buckets and had nothing left...was Iwrong.

GeocacherNY 04/26/2011

{{{HUGS}}}

ChiTownBear 04/26/2011

I am sorry you are dealing with all this. it does appear to get harder before it can get better

*bear hug*

llmt 04/26/2011

Thanks Chi...guess I don't see it. It's been too long.

ChiTownBear 04/26/2011

I hear ya, hun... I hear ya.

hang in there

*bear hug*

deleted_user 04/26/2011

I recognise you. Big hug. Well no wonder you feel it doesn't end. You are still under the same roof! It will end, I assure you. In the meantime, you are surrounded by the fallout. I wish you could take a break...a vacation. So do the kids. Step away from the situation. I know this isn't practical. but you just simply haven't been in the position yet to move on. When you are immersed in scalding water constantly, for example, you will continue to hurt, right? Again, it WILL get better. You have to finish up the old business, though. You are busy cleaning up the mess and it does get overwhelming. I'm glad you came back here. I think you are doing the best you can with a horrible situation. I hope that house sells soon and that you get the cooperation from your ex so that things can get tied up. Only then will you be able to move forward. Hang in there, okay?

deleted_user 04/26/2011

hugs to you, i understand, just when i think i am starting to feel better, bam something happens to bring me right back down.

deleted_user 04/26/2011

It has been a long time for you, no wonder you're feeling tired and are low on hope.

I'm sorry you came back under these circumstances but I'm glad to see you.

In what ways can we support you?

I don't know that I have any advice to give that you wouldn't already know.

It sounds like nothing much is going to change until the house is sold, and then it may be like the dam breaking, all that pressure is released and everyone concerned can take a deep breath.

I suppose the question is, what to do to hang on until that time comes?

What are you doing so far? I can't imagine having all that weighing on your shoulders for all this time.

Wish I could forward a mini-vacation to your inbox, if only it were that easy.

Are you in contact with friends? are they giving you moral support?

((hugs))

goodfight 04/26/2011

Mad Hugs from everyone! JustSpiffy is right your still smack in the middle of ground zero so no wonder it's tough. To be honest I haven't heard of such a messed up situation, normally the cheater runs off with their tail between their legs because they know they are wrong. Things will get better, just not until everything gets settled out with the house, living arrangements, and everything else. I don't think a lot of people could put up with what you've been through the last couple of years so give yourself some credit and a break you are one tough lady! I will shoot you message later. God bless.

deleted_user 04/26/2011

I am sorry. I am almost the same boat, it does get harder. I don't know if it will ever get better for me. But try not to give up!!! Hugs

WTconfused 04/26/2011

llmt- BIG HUGS to you. There is sunshine waithing for you down the road. I wish I could give you some of my energy. You are still in the hot water with your EX still being there and acting like a child. I'm hoping that your house sells and then you will be able to take a breath and move forward. We are all here for you.

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