Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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wiggywango 11/08/2013

I've been in my new place for a week now and I remember posting a discussion before I moved asking for others experiences when they first moved out on their own again. I was scared because I didn't know how I would react...loneliness, crying, obsessing etc. The weird thing is that while I have done my fair share of crying over the loss of the "dream", I don't really feel lonely, I don't really miss him and I don't really care what he is doing or with whom. While I'm thankful for this, I'm a little surprised. Am I just shell shocked? Or could it be that all along deep down I knew I didn't want him, I just couldn't admit that it was over? Anyone else feel like this?

deleted_user 11/08/2013

I found that I didn't miss the drama, the tension, him yelling, his violence, and I loved the peace, the quiet, living with my son and a new dog in a fresh new life.

I found that we went out walking and did fun things--we didn't do this when with him. We were to stay in the home. We even built a snow dog (snowman) and that's something we never were allowed to do. We began to live, and breathe at last.

Skwerl 11/08/2013

Yep. I remember, amidst the crying and heartbreak, it felt like a giant weight had been lifted. Sometimes one part of our brain moves on without the other parts knowing it.
I think you're headed in the right direction.

deleted_user 11/08/2013

I hope to be moving out next week and reading all of your comments really is encouraging. I also think how lonely it's going to be not having my wife and kids after 19 years. However I do look forward to having some peace in my life and have to remind myself that this will get better with some time.

BlueKnight69 11/08/2013

Yes! lack of drama and stress and anxiety is always such a huge relief...the tears still came but I felt so much better. I began functioning almost normally rather quickly...

It sounds like you are in a great place:)

Good luck!

deleted_user 11/08/2013

After I left I didn't miss him at all. It's been 2-1/2 years and I still don't miss him. I was a single parent in a marriage, so nothing changed except my address and disposable income (I have none now!). So no, I don't think you're shell-shocked. Maybe just relieved.

ALD13072 11/08/2013

So happy to hear that you are adjusting well to your new home!

For me it was a relief when I moved into my new house as I could finally start moving forward and focus on myself...my future. While I was in my marital home I could not move on...I was stuck!

I hope you continue to have more good days then bad!

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