Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Everybody goes through breakups, right? Then why do I feel like I want to die right now? Is it stupid that Im looking for advise after a breakup or am I just writing this because Im so sad and depressed that I need to vent?
Am I suffering depression?
My name is Alfonso. Im from Spain, and it was a long time ago that I decided to leave my comfortable life in Spain because I was bored and come to the US. After a few years trying to fit in, I met the beautiful Amanda. Everything started the right way and continued the right way. We were co-workers. Words cant describe how fast my heart would beat every time shed smile at me, shed text me, shed call me, shed kiss me shed ask me to sleep over...I was willing to go the extra-mile for her, I would have done anything for her. I was her rock during the tough times she got unemployed. Shed always thank me for being there for her.
Im 36 years old and shes 26. Ive always dreamed about marrying an American girl, and I couldnt hide my happiness when I thought Id finally found her. I thought she was perfect. I never scared her away with any questions about the future though, but of course I saw her as my future wife. However, I was always very careful, trying to enjoy and make her enjoy the present.
Out of nowhere, 2 weeks ago she told me she wasnt ready for a serious relationship, after 7 months with me.She told me I did nothing wrong, how amazing I was, but she was not ready. The world ended there for me. My status in the US is not very secure and my company has changed a lot and I barely enjoy my job anymore. This has always been a problem, but I had her at the end of the day. I had something to look forward to.
I made Amanda the center of my life. I have very few friends here and Im very scared. Every day is a struggle. When the alarm clock goes off every day at 5.00am I feel like I want to die. I just want to sleep, be unconscious so I dont think about her. She follows me everywhere I go. I miss her so much. The most stupid detail reminds me of her and that makes me want to cry in the most random places. Im desperate. Sometimes I feel so terrible that I turn to God and pray that he helps me. I dont have suicidal thoughts, but sometimes I`d much rather be dead.
I know Im not the only one feeling like this. Thats why I thank you for reading this because writing it made me feel a little better.
I never thought Id be writing about this on a public forum. Thats how sad I am. THANK YOU
Am I suffering depression?
My name is Alfonso. Im from Spain, and it was a long time ago that I decided to leave my comfortable life in Spain because I was bored and come to the US. After a few years trying to fit in, I met the beautiful Amanda. Everything started the right way and continued the right way. We were co-workers. Words cant describe how fast my heart would beat every time shed smile at me, shed text me, shed call me, shed kiss me shed ask me to sleep over...I was willing to go the extra-mile for her, I would have done anything for her. I was her rock during the tough times she got unemployed. Shed always thank me for being there for her.
Im 36 years old and shes 26. Ive always dreamed about marrying an American girl, and I couldnt hide my happiness when I thought Id finally found her. I thought she was perfect. I never scared her away with any questions about the future though, but of course I saw her as my future wife. However, I was always very careful, trying to enjoy and make her enjoy the present.
Out of nowhere, 2 weeks ago she told me she wasnt ready for a serious relationship, after 7 months with me.She told me I did nothing wrong, how amazing I was, but she was not ready. The world ended there for me. My status in the US is not very secure and my company has changed a lot and I barely enjoy my job anymore. This has always been a problem, but I had her at the end of the day. I had something to look forward to.
I made Amanda the center of my life. I have very few friends here and Im very scared. Every day is a struggle. When the alarm clock goes off every day at 5.00am I feel like I want to die. I just want to sleep, be unconscious so I dont think about her. She follows me everywhere I go. I miss her so much. The most stupid detail reminds me of her and that makes me want to cry in the most random places. Im desperate. Sometimes I feel so terrible that I turn to God and pray that he helps me. I dont have suicidal thoughts, but sometimes I`d much rather be dead.
I know Im not the only one feeling like this. Thats why I thank you for reading this because writing it made me feel a little better.
I never thought Id be writing about this on a public forum. Thats how sad I am. THANK YOU
These are classic signs of depression, and depression is a very normal stage of a breakup. I, too, have gone through these feelings, and am getting the help of my doctor and a prescription antidepressant. Many people prefer not to use medication, in which case, I would highly recommend finding someone you can talk to. If you don't have access to a therapist, maybe a clergyman/priest, a mentor, or just a friend. There are organizations out there who can refer to you low-cost or free counseling services. While time is the real healer, talking out your feelings can move the process along and help you find ways of wanting to get out of that bed and dealing with those thoughts of death. Prayer is a very good start. Even for those who are not religious, prayer is a form of meditation, and meditation can help with depression.
Best wishes to you.