Yes it's revenge.. If you were with him would you do these things? Just a thought... I won't judge but you asked...

yeah its revenge. just be careful resentments can destroy us inside

kellyissad, this is why I got out in the first place, so me and the kids wouldnt be there when he DOES get caught.

And darrin, it already is!

when you feel that anger let it go. your happiness is the best revenge

Sorry Love.. If you want to then go for it... I think that he will get his in the long run.. But hey if it makes you feel better I say jump with two feet in.

I don't know what kind of trouble he can get in other then his buisness but then if he gives you money that would take away from you and the kids.. I haven't read your profile so please forgive me that I don't know your situation...

I'd ponder on it Diemjs...

It really sucks when someone hurts us and to our eyes get to go on their merrily way. These feelings are natural. However, please don't act on them. It will only bite you in the end. Try to focus on you. Now, you don't have to worry about his financial mess. If and when the IRS catches up you don't have to worry. Try to focus all your energy on you. I don't know if I believe in karma but I know that when you try to do make positive changes in your life, you'll hit a few bumps, but over all positive things will happen.

Everyone loves the thought of revenge. I wanted revenge for the crap my x did prior to leaving. She didn't pay her taxes and I sold everything I had worth money to pay bills 3 months before she walked out. Had been cheating for 8 months prior and all I could think about was that I sold things I really wanted and will spend years trying to replace for what? But after she left and as the months went by I could see what was happening to her. Things just seem to take care of itself... She is miserable, depressed and bad things keep happening to her. That reap what you sow law taking affect. I believe that happens to people who make poor choices with their life and you cant run away from it. It catches up soon enough and mostly because they don't stop doing stupid things. I hope you understand what I mean. There's no need to take revenge. Revenge happens all by itself to people like that.

I am in complete agreement with Moving.. karma gets them.. My ex was so terrible to me, and now he is jobless, homeless, living on a boat and miserable. he will have to learn to live without me, his sole support for our entire marriage.. I am free and feeling better every day.. have my own little place, bask in the sunshine and the love of my family and friends.. I pray for him to find his way.. Revenge hurts the one that desires it.. I send prayers of peace and comfort to your hurt heart.. Kimmee

I think you all misunderstood. Im not going to do anything to cause his pain, or misfortune, I just FEEL like I want him to pay. Im just waiting for it to happen. Im going to let nature take its course. I just want it to happen NOW! That is the feeling I am tired of! I know it will happen, I just want it to happen now!

Thanks for all your concern and wise comments.

No, it is not revenge. Only if you act on those things. He is a lot of trouble. Maybe he is scared and needs some type of help. If you were together at that time, you could be responsible as well. Never wish anything wrong on anybody, no matter how bad you feel. Believe me, my wife just makes me angry sometimes and yet I pray for her well being everyday.

I'll tell ya, D.....our husbands must have taken the same course in "How to manage your money." I told you I just found out he borrowed over $2000 from HIS landlord to trade stocks.....i.e. gamble.....and now that's due, along with our mortgage and a list of other past due bills. I don't know if they can ever change and I do think things are and will be catching up to mine. But him being in jail is not going to help me and my kids, so I try not to think about that.

It has taken a long time,but now he is eating his own lunch.He called me the other day crying to call of my lawyer.Just found out yesterday that our divorce is going to trial in July and he's going to have to face some serious concequences for his poor lifestyle and choices and doesn't want to face it....too damn bad...sucks to be him!!! Same for yours diemjs

only if you act on it..fantasize all you want tho *revengeful grin*

I totally understand how you feel. I was searching my brains for dirt on him and make sure to destroy him with him. The thing is... I am a strong believer in karma. This would come back to bite me in the ass. And since i think i suffer enough as it is, i don't want to put bad energy out there. Don't get me wrong, i still feel very bitter about all this shit, but at the same time, i also feel greatful on a spiritual level. I am now forced to face my addiction because of this. It's pissing me off most of the time because my ego still asks that i stay in denial. It is very very hard to work on such a big issue. Truth is, if we stayed together, i would not have been able to face my addiction. I knew it was there, but as long as he would have stayed, i would not have trully done something about it.

You can think the things you think, write and talk about them here, let it out. Ask the universe (or God if you believe in him/her) to help you get rid of the vengence desire.

Hugs to you

Mel