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Is it normal to be angry at everything and everyone?
This is my second major break up. My first was after 20 marraige and he tried to kill me and it took me 1 1/2 years to leave safely with my kids. This time I have been with Jim for 10 years and this last year, he started to hit my teen son (first a push into the wall and then a slap in the face) So he crossed the line and I kicked him out a week and a half ago. There are many other issues too. I do love this man, unlike the first, and we are still a couple, but NO WAY can he live under the same roof as long as my children live here.
BUT, I find that I am so angry! Thoughts about my parents or siblings or job or issues I had forgot about or myself or anything that isn't even related and I am screaming angry! And then I'm reduced to heaving sobs. Anger is not an emotion that I usually display. I usually shrug everything off.
I just feel like I can't count on anyone or anything, including myself. I'm just so ANGRY and can't get out of it. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Anger, cry, anger, cry?
I don't know what to do with myself
Angela
This is my second major break up. My first was after 20 marraige and he tried to kill me and it took me 1 1/2 years to leave safely with my kids. This time I have been with Jim for 10 years and this last year, he started to hit my teen son (first a push into the wall and then a slap in the face) So he crossed the line and I kicked him out a week and a half ago. There are many other issues too. I do love this man, unlike the first, and we are still a couple, but NO WAY can he live under the same roof as long as my children live here.
BUT, I find that I am so angry! Thoughts about my parents or siblings or job or issues I had forgot about or myself or anything that isn't even related and I am screaming angry! And then I'm reduced to heaving sobs. Anger is not an emotion that I usually display. I usually shrug everything off.
I just feel like I can't count on anyone or anything, including myself. I'm just so ANGRY and can't get out of it. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? Anger, cry, anger, cry?
I don't know what to do with myself
Angela
feel your anger all you want
and realize your mind is calling on your to take some kind of action (anger is an emotion of mobility, it wants action of some sort)
just keep in your awareness of who is the cause of that anger
innocent people don't deserve to have us take it out on them
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