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hannabean
hannabean
Hi I have been separated from my husband for over two years. I have recently been doing supervised visits for my son. This morning I woke up to find myself missing my husband. Is this normal? The reason we separated was because he was too abusive to just me.
Justme2892
Justme2892
You have supervised visits?
horseshoe2985
horseshoe2985
I am so sorry to hear about your marriage. I know it is very hard. I just went through a divorce due to an abusive marriage and it hurts. Despite that hurt and all the bad things I do still miss him. Have you ever talked to a counselor?

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jaclyn1973
jaclyn1973
yes, it's normal
hannabean
hannabean
Thank you everyone for all your input.

Justme2892 lol oh I see no I don't have supervised visits. I supervise the visits between my son and his dad. I make sure all visits are in public places and because I don't have anyone to supervise the visits between my son and his dad; I do them.
Justme2892
Justme2892
Oh, ok. Thank you for clearing that up.

I suppose it's normal. Even if the other person was toxic, or just terrible at being our SO, I don't believe the "love" or "missing" goes away with the snap of a finger.

Now, if he's abusive...to the point that you have supervised visits for him....I would find journaling, or venting, or anything healthy that wouldn't involve you acting on your "missing" feelings. Abuse equals bad news.

I hope you find the strength you are looking for and, please, keep encouraged.