I understand you wanting to do that.....I feel that way all the time, certain things happen and I would just LOVE to blast it out to him in hopes to make him jealous or whatever.....but then I think if something good comes along for him and I find out....I have a terrible jealous streak, I would be so upset, so I remain quiet....but in my thoughts I think of the satisfaction....
Just be careful of any and all actions, because every action has a re-action!

true, I just want to say it in a nice way F. you... I am doing OK.. Speaking of ex, he text me this past weekend and I said: I was was on my street with my fire co not sure which end is yours....

You're feelings are valid and natural. There were times I felt the same way concerning my ex, but understood I would be proving nothing and validating him. Those thoughts quickly dissipated.

The loudest way of getting back at an ex and sending a message of F you, is living a happy life without acknowledging his existence. If you have kids, the only communication should be about the kids. Other than that continue to succeed through life happy and fulfilled.

Strangest thing, driving home Today from new position and I should be happy but, started feeling sad.... All is going very well. New position, I got two Real Estate deals going, finances are starting to look up, living situation is good, good friends and so on. Then why in the F&&k is my ex on my mind heavy. I guess of all people I want to share my good news with is him. aagghhh, heart hurts.. aagghhh

I think you are struggling with what so many struggle with who come out of long term relationships. These victories that advance our lives use to be celebrated as a victory for the couple/family. There was pride in knowing that not only have you made your life a little better, but also the lives that we held nearest to our hearts. Its like relearning how to walk after a devastating accident. Now we have to learn not only how to walk alone but also learn how to do the celebration dance for ourselves.

I know what ur going thru Janice....anytime I hear ANYTHING that I know would interest my stbx.....I wish I could share it with him. It's not as hard as it was 3 months ago tho.....just have to keep saying "oh well too bad, it's his loss! Stay strong and keep ur head upon congrats on ur New position. Keep up the good work. You deserve it!!!

Thank you guys, today is just one of them days. I was doing fine.. and then it hit me.

I can understand that. But just because you think about something and feel like it doesn't mean you should do it. I would suggest resisting this, but accepting the thoughts and feelings as just that.

I will not send it.. It is what I would like to do but, know better..

Janice - I too wanted to do this. Turns out that I didn't have to. My kids tell him lol. They do the rubbing but only because they were so angry with him. I got the effect I wanted, we were on the phone one day and he was upset and I said, I'm fine, new friends, great job, they love me there, and he kinda lost it saying yes, I know you're better than me? WTH? I never said that. I did say I am fine and in the long run, your affair and the divorce was the best thing that happened to me.

I still get sad at not having that special someone to share my news with (my kids aren't the same). We will help you celebrate as I am sure your friends do as well.

Thank you canstay2, I am sure that in time I will get my validation, vindication and etc. I will not say anything, either our paths will cross or one day he will call my job, and the ladies here will rub it in for me.

Beaitiful night at the beach.. reflecting

understand wanting to but, trust me, the best "revenge" is moving on and leaving him a speck in your rearview mirror. Knowing and living your life independent and free of him is the best "getting back at him" you can do.

Remember, once a woman shows herself to be anything but accomodating and sweet, men quickly label her as difficult and crazy. The minute you blast it, it will probably come off to him as desperate or crazy. I don't think you are, but people feel comfortable writing women off in this way instead of looking inward and recognizing their own shortcomings.

That is exactly why I will let nature take its course.