Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Masao 03/04/2017

Hi All - not sure how this place works - but I just want a place to get some community - naturally it would be better if you all were in a large nice hall with soft chairs to sit and talk in. But this will do for now. I am a mental health professional and so this is both painful and ironic.

It has been 6 weeks since she dropped the bomb and left the house. I am starting to work through the pain of losing her, now its the "stigma" since this isn't my 1st marriage, and the fear of losing friends, my many married friends, who fear they might "catch" what I have.

I have abandonment issues, and hate to be alone too much - and so fear is a constant companion right now.

I don't even know why she left - except that she said "we're not happy"... and then implied their were a couple other reasons but refused to mention what they are.

Looking forward to seeing what you all have been sharing here.

~ Masao

Nick2017 03/04/2017

i came here a few weeks ago. it's terrible. you will find help here.

why-me 03/04/2017

I hear ya man, same boat here. Was out with family and friends tonight while they joke saying their going to find Xwife #3 tonight for me. Aaaa ouch lol. I hate being alone and have been out a few times now with other woman just not the same though. My X treated me very poorly so I should be happy to move on but I'm not and why the hell is that. It's keeping me awake at night

Masao 03/05/2017

Hey why-me. How long were you with her? Losing a life partner is like losing a limb. It's real. Hope you do a lot to keep your self healthy emotionally and physically.

kbbcoop77 03/05/2017

My wife pull the same thing after 24 years together… It's been three years ago and now I'm pretty much healed and I'm here just to tell you you'll get through it .. this site really saved me in the early days ..hang in there

tmichelle 03/05/2017

I too have abandonment issues. Sounds like to me, you should get to the bottom of the abandonment issues, learn to accept that this is part of you and find ways to not let these issues get in the way of the next relationship. Until you deal with the abandonment issues, you will find yourself struggling in relationships.

Masao 03/05/2017

Thank you. Yes I am working on my issues around abandonment and past trauma. Lately the thing that has been causing me the most grief is the knowing that some married friends see me as somehow dangerous and no longer worthy of their friendship. Talk about triggering abandonment issues! I understand that people fear losing their own relationships and it bring stress to their lives to know that a friend has lost theirs.

I'm going to do a session of transformational breath work this afternoon. It does help me several times and I encourage anyone going through any sort of deep stress or has in the past to do it.

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