I think similar values are really important.
It has gotten to a point where the things I overlook about him that affect me negatively are no longer healthy for me. I can't change him. I can only remove myself if I don't like what the relationship is bringing out in me. My attitude is only so strong - there comes a point where I need to remove what is hurting me from my life.
He draws violent art he displays and it sickens me. I dislike violence and he likes it (he loves pro wrestling I hate it)
He smokes with lung tumors. I quit smoking years ago and hate the 2nd hand smoke and his self destructiveness.
He is not compassionate of my feelings. I keep forgetting this and getting into arguments when I bring up my feelings, like it's some attack on him.
He has been dishonest. I seek to take responsiblity for my words.
He already has a family of his own. I don't.
He makes promises he can't keep. I tend to value my word and seek to be understood in my intentions. He says things more to get a reaction not because he means them.
I am this loner and he is ultra popular. It is ok it's just you know, it leaves me with not much else to turn to when things get bad.
I (usually) like vegetarian he likes meat.
At what point do I stop "working around" the differences and see the stress it is putting on me and take off?
He is unstable emotionally and has been through suicide attempts and medications. I see a counslor and I am not his nurse.
I drive and he doesn't (this is hard to admit). I'm tired of it.
He is neat and dirty. I am messy but clean (does that make sense?)
Hoping to hear your own stories. Thanks.