I’m in the tail end of my marriage. I’ve been faithful and always strives to make her happy. It made me weak I lost my confidence, my swagger everything. I’m a completely different person than I was when we met. My situation ended in two affairs from my wife. About a month ago we made a decision mostly her. So I got down I was sad but I’ve done a lot of self help search and priority one is my daughter she is 4. I’ve also taken care of myself. We can feel sorry for ourselves and find what if’s all day but in the end it doesn’t help. It makes it worse. My suggestion would be to take care of you YOU in the end that’s the only person you can control. You can sit and reflect, or you can use it as motivation. I’ve made drastic changes of course I still hurt but guess what. In the end it’s the hurt that helps us grow and become a stronger person live with it and take strides to better ourselves. You can get through it, you just have to want to get through it.

Jenny, tell us your story, maybe we can help.

I know how you feel, Jenny. It sucks. I've felt taken for granted and I've taken my wife, soon to be ex I guess, for granted, too. Some relationships just don't work and I had to accept mine just isn't one that will. But, I'm trying to keep it moving. I know you can, too.

Jenny,

How are you doing now? I know it can be so hard when we do not feel valued and appreciated, but Jenny, you are a precious person of great value and worth. You have gifts and talents, and they have been given to you for a reason, for you to use to bless others. Your worth is not dependent upon what another person thinks or does not think. Focus on finding what is unique about you. I recommend getting the book The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. It can give new direction and new strength beyond what your partner does or does not do. I also really hope you make an appointment with a doctor for an evaluation. I remember when I just felt like I was in an absolute black hole with no energy. I was having panic attacks and bursting into tears at the drop of a hat. I was embarrassed to go to the doctor, but within two weeks of getting on an antidepressant it was like an entire new world opened up for me. If you try one medication and it does not help, do not give up. It may take a few tries to get the right combination for your chemistry. There is hope, there is help, and you have incredible value whether you realize it or your partner does.