You know the answer to this one HUGS

Am I the only person who doesn't have sex with the man that's divorcing/leaving/abusing/doesn't love or even necessarily like me?

Really, I want to know.

Have I been so blind that this is now the "in" thing?

Really I feel like I'm in the twilight zone.

clear day I don't think you're in the Twilight Zone I actually think that's a great thing that you cut those sexual ties off because it really complicates things when you have sex in the middle

Well thank you very much for saying so.

For a few weeks now I've been feeling like a whack job because if someone doesn't know if they want to be with me, I generally am not feeling very amorous.

Sometimes its the only connection left but it
Harms us way more than helps us. HUGS

I know I don't really feel that way either I think for me at this point it's just more like a sense of habit but that have it should be no more if he supposedly doesn't know if he wants to be with me, do you agree

It is so hard when you still have those feelings to just say no. ClearDay1 you know from my posts too that I too am one who struggles with the inability to just say no right now and am stuck in the in between. It is like we are holding on to the idea that they still want us, but know the harsh reality of it in the end. It is a temporary moment of feeling that does hurt us, but gives us that feeling of touch that we are craving. Tynee5511 I you, like me find the strength to let go.

It was an emotional struggle he was not active
That i knew of just checked out and looking, to
Me when you say no more sex you are saying the
Marriage is over and you are making a stand.

I had moved out of the bedroom in march of that
Year he left in july. He had raged a few times and
I said forget about sleeping there.

I wish i made my stand 13 years ago when he started
Playing games. I should have left then and saved myself
Years of aggravation and i would have only been in my
Late 40's. I wish it but i didnt do it, i kept trying and trying
some More to make it work. Guess what it takes two willing
Mature adults. HUGS

Sweetie, I've read your posts in the past in the abuse group. I believe you know he is bad for you, but you can't overcome the connection. Been there, done that...usually doesn't end well. Please for your own sake and the sake of your beautiful boy, seek out therapy to help you cut the "tie." Do you want that baby to see how you are being treated and think its ok? Of course not. I know its hard, but you have the strength....just the fact that you are reaching out here shows that. Love yourself more than you love him.

Thank you all for your kind words I guess what I'm struggling with now is him keep saying he's not sure if you made the right choice I don't want to be in the in between I just want to, make the decision final for him so that he can stop stringing me along but I don't really know what to say and I may even be afraid to do it. But I think for him to say that he's not sure is unfair to me because he took all of his belongings and practically moved out